Emma Chamberlain

I'm an idiot.

You see the problem here?

These are all things that shouldn't impact one's sense of self.

But if you're overly concerned with other people's opinions and thoughts about you and feelings about you, these things will impact your sense of self, your self-esteem, your self-worth.

Now it's tricky, right?

Because if you're someone who's ultra sensitive, and I can relate to this because I've had periods of my life where I've been very sensitive in this way.

can be hard to tell like okay i seem to take everything personally i seem to let everything go straight to my heart you know like i seem to let everybody's opinion of me immediately attack my my reserves of self-esteem it's hard to discern okay when should i take people's opinions to heart and when should i take them with a grain of salt

When should I let them hit my reserves of self-esteem and when should I not?

And I think the best way to figure it out is to reflect on the situation at hand and ask yourself, if upon honest reflection, if you've done anything wrong, have you genuinely done anything wrong?

Yes or no?

And if the answer is yes,

then yeah, you know what?

It makes sense that it took a little bit of self-esteem out of your reserves because you fucked up and you need to earn that self-esteem back because you did something wrong and you hurt people.

That's actually like things functioning properly, at least in my opinion.

However, if you didn't do anything wrong upon reflection and it started to drain your reserves of self-esteem, that's something that you need to take with a grain of salt.

If you're letting something impact your self-esteem that actually isn't a negative reflection of you, you didn't do anything wrong, then that means something's off.

You see what I'm saying?

That means you got an issue.

So how do you feel more independent in your self-worth?

My advice, build more trust with yourself.