Emma Chamberlain

I think that's always going to be hard for me.

I think it's just who I am.

So I relate to this.

However, something that I remind myself of when I'm kind of feeling tempted to just agree, fit in with everyone else, whatever, something that I remind myself of is,

that having your own unique point of view instead of opinions is far more respectable, attractive, and interesting, in my opinion, and in the opinion of the internet, I've Googled this before, than being agreeable, agreeing with everything that everyone says.

I think a lot of it is subconscious, but like we respect people who lightly disagree with us.

We respect people who like different things than we do.

I mean, listen, obviously there's exceptions.

I think for the sake of this conversation, I'm not talking about serious topics, but rather more lighthearted things like whether or not a movie is good.

Whether or not a restaurant is good, whether or not a pair of jeans is cute, whether or not what your friend did last year at your other friend's birthday party was wrong or not, you know, like things that are a bit more lighthearted.

Let's keep it in this world for this conversation, because I think that that's really what we're talking about here.

I think that we think instinctually that agreeing with everyone will make us more likable because I think instinctually we feel like, oh, if we have things in common with others, then that means that we're similar.

And then that means that we that they'll want to hang out because we like the same things.

But the truth is, at least in my experience, when someone just agrees with everything I say, I'm kind of like, well, I don't really believe them anymore.

You know what I mean?

I don't actively think that, but like subconsciously I'm like, there's no way you agree with me on everything.

If anything, it makes the things that we agree on more powerful if there are some things that we disagree on.

We respect people who clearly have a spine, clearly have a sense of self, are confident in their opinions and beliefs, and aren't afraid to disagree.

We admire that.

We're attracted to that.