Emma Chamberlain

I'm not painting a new painting, right?

It's like I'm fucking copying

Van Gogh's self-portrait right now.

And I know that, but I'm admitting to it.

I'm giving idea creds.

I think of it as like you and people that you love are connected by threads, like sewn together, right?

And to me, the idea of maintaining a level of detachment is to like, you kind of cut the threads and then you re-sew them more spread out so that you're further away from that person.

You're still connected.

You still have the threads connecting you, but instead of being so tightly sewn together that you can barely move,

you can cut those threads and you can sew them a bit looser so that everybody can move freely, but that love is still there and there is still that connection.

And I think that visual to me, the comparison between being so tightly bound and sewn to somebody that you can barely move versus...

being able to move completely freely and wonderfully, almost as if the threads aren't there, but the threads are there.

You know what I mean?

Like that visual to me was so valuable.

And that came from this detachment rabbit hole.

I think another interesting thing that I discovered going down this rabbit hole is that it's about relinquishing control of others, letting them make mistakes, letting go of anxiety about what they're doing, relieving ourselves from the responsibility of others.

accepting the fact that others' behaviors to an extent are out of our control.

And that is like one of the key pieces of advice that you receive if you're somebody with anxiety, you know, let go of things that you can't control.

And this is going hand in hand with that, right?

But I do think that at times we can forget how out of our control other people's actions are, you know?