Emma Chamberlain

Yes or no?

And if the answer is yes,

then yeah, you know what?

It makes sense that it took a little bit of self-esteem out of your reserves because you fucked up and you need to earn that self-esteem back because you did something wrong and you hurt people.

That's actually like things functioning properly, at least in my opinion.

However, if you didn't do anything wrong upon reflection and it started to drain your reserves of self-esteem, that's something that you need to take with a grain of salt.

If you're letting something impact your self-esteem that actually isn't a negative reflection of you, you didn't do anything wrong, then that means something's off.

You see what I'm saying?

That means you got an issue.

So how do you feel more independent in your self-worth?

My advice, build more trust with yourself.

Make promises to yourself and follow through.

That's one of the greatest ways that you can build trust with yourself.

It builds self-respect.

If you say, tomorrow I'm gonna wake up at seven in the morning and I'm gonna journal and I'm gonna cook myself a healthy breakfast.

with lots of like fun like I'm gonna use everything bagel seasoning and I'm gonna like plate it pretty and like maybe that's a promise you make to yourself fulfill that promise maybe the next week your promise to yourself is I'm going to work every day without going on Instagram every like for a week I'm not gonna let myself go on Instagram during working hours for a week

Keep that promise to yourself.

That will build self-respect.

The next week, okay, I'm going to exercise three times this week.

Keep that promise.