Emma Chamberlain

But it's sort of a relief to think that eventually you will be found out for who you are, regardless of what kind of charade you're trying to put on.

And I don't think it changes the outcome of a relationship.

Like, I think a relationship is either going to work or it's not.

And a charade that you're putting on is not going to change that.

Because I think, again, this goes back, I promise that this goes back to what I was talking about.

A part of detachment is relinquishing control of others, what they're doing, what they're thinking, what they're feeling.

That's out of our control.

We must let it go.

We must detach enough to let that go.

And I think what's great about that is that that allows you to be yourself in a relationship.

And that is so much better because, again, you're going to get found out anyway.

So it's like just do it out the gate and save yourself the exhaustion in a way.

But also too, like, yeah, if you're like concerned about what somebody you're romantically interested in is doing, if you're concerned about it, like you feel like they go out without you too much, you feel like they have more fun without you, this and that, like that might still bother you even if you're detached.

And that's then a sign that maybe you're not compatible.

You know, maybe it's not working.

Like you could still discover that.

I think it's...

Just that if you're somebody who's particularly attached, you're going to get upset like every time they're not hanging out with you.

Anytime they're having fun without you, that's going to freak you out, you know?

And you're going to overthink it and you're going to spiral about it.