Emma Edwards

You know, it's not, we behave the same way and we keep up with our peers and friends.

I do think the keeping up with the Joneses' behaviour is a little bit more of our parents' generation.

I don't personally feel like I've ever consciously done that.

But the environments that we exist in mean that we...

not actively keep up, but just feel compelled to participate in the same types of hobbies, holidays, hen do's.

Yeah.

So I think that firstly, when you turn your awareness to it, you are instantly in a better place to change behavior.

But there's a lot of, I mean, depending on what it is that's going on for you and what you're discovering, there's a lot of self-forgiveness.

There's a lot of awareness that needs to happen and sort of keeping your finger on the pulse of where your money's going.

So it's not, you know, you don't just draw a line and stop doing it anymore, but you draw a line where you stop ignoring it and you might notice it.

And, you know, depending on

how much true financial capacity you do have and what the actual problem is.

But keeping engaged with it and really sort of, I think we often underestimate in all kinds of things,

how we actually make decisions about anything.

There's a book by Mel Robbins, who has nothing to do with Tony Robbins, I've discovered.

But I thought they were married at one stage and I was like, ooh, because I really like her.

But she, this feels irrelevant, but I swear it's relevant.

She has a book called The Five Second Rule.

And it's about sort of compelling yourself to do things and finding motivation.

But what she talks about in it is there's actually been so many studies done