Emma Grede

And that was anyone like, you know, you could push past me in the street.

I was losing my shit.

You know, it's just like, that's how I was raised to be like tough and to not let people take advantage.

And as soon as you get into a professional workplace, that is not good.

something that works, that is not conducive to me getting ahead.

So I was like, all right, all of this stuff that I've got doesn't serve me.

It's not working to get me where I need to be.

And for me, it was really that selfish in the beginning.

I was like, I have to get rid of some of these things I have because they're not working to get me where I want to go.

And as soon as I made that connection, that actually it was within my control,

that I was the one that was creating these stories in my head.

I learned to go inside and I learned to get close to myself.

And it was so interesting because back then we didn't talk about that meditation or mindfulness in that way.

It was like, take a deep breath, count to 10.

and go inside and I would like have a conversation with myself and I was like, this isn't who I am.

I'm actually not that angry.

I just don't know the other ways to behave.

And so emotional hygiene for me has always been about how close can I get to myself and how can I understand what is serving me and what I really want.

And that's why the book actually starts in this place of like holding a vision for yourself.

And I do not mean manifestation and vision boards.