Erica Bailey

I go to talk after talk of an amazing paper and then an amazing experiment and a crazy keynote speech that's summarizing someone's entire career. And that pressure that can make you feel like everyone is living this perfect, glamorous life because you don't see all the messy details that went into what people are going through or the steps that it took for them to get to where they are.

And sometimes sharing that information can be really powerful, especially from people who you think have really figured it out.

And sometimes sharing that information can be really powerful, especially from people who you think have really figured it out.

And sometimes sharing that information can be really powerful, especially from people who you think have really figured it out.

So I try and do this with PhD applicants or people that want to work in my lab is to explain, you know, I look a certain way to you and let me show you how much consternation there was to get to this point and how much of it is messiness and figuring it out and luck and chance. And that's as much a part of successes as hard work and timing and effort.

So I try and do this with PhD applicants or people that want to work in my lab is to explain, you know, I look a certain way to you and let me show you how much consternation there was to get to this point and how much of it is messiness and figuring it out and luck and chance. And that's as much a part of successes as hard work and timing and effort.

So I try and do this with PhD applicants or people that want to work in my lab is to explain, you know, I look a certain way to you and let me show you how much consternation there was to get to this point and how much of it is messiness and figuring it out and luck and chance. And that's as much a part of successes as hard work and timing and effort.

It's an aspect of life beyond social media. It's something we feel in many social contexts. It's almost a quintessential feature of being human. It's balancing this need for impression management concerns with wanting to share with people who you really are on the inside Maybe your deeper insecurities and criticisms. And what we want to try and find is the right balance between those things.

It's an aspect of life beyond social media. It's something we feel in many social contexts. It's almost a quintessential feature of being human. It's balancing this need for impression management concerns with wanting to share with people who you really are on the inside Maybe your deeper insecurities and criticisms. And what we want to try and find is the right balance between those things.

It's an aspect of life beyond social media. It's something we feel in many social contexts. It's almost a quintessential feature of being human. It's balancing this need for impression management concerns with wanting to share with people who you really are on the inside Maybe your deeper insecurities and criticisms. And what we want to try and find is the right balance between those things.

So you talked about people showing their failure resumes. Sometimes I have to look at my own success resume, my actual resume, to remind myself that as much as these stories of grandeur are not true, so too are sort of the overdue criticisms that we kind of put on ourselves. So there's a balance between

So you talked about people showing their failure resumes. Sometimes I have to look at my own success resume, my actual resume, to remind myself that as much as these stories of grandeur are not true, so too are sort of the overdue criticisms that we kind of put on ourselves. So there's a balance between

So you talked about people showing their failure resumes. Sometimes I have to look at my own success resume, my actual resume, to remind myself that as much as these stories of grandeur are not true, so too are sort of the overdue criticisms that we kind of put on ourselves. So there's a balance between

being aware of your shortcomings and how you can grow and the messiness of being human, as podcasters like to say, with kind of being aware of your growth and the potential that you have.

being aware of your shortcomings and how you can grow and the messiness of being human, as podcasters like to say, with kind of being aware of your growth and the potential that you have.

being aware of your shortcomings and how you can grow and the messiness of being human, as podcasters like to say, with kind of being aware of your growth and the potential that you have.

In a job interview, I would say that's a classic experience where people tend to feel very inauthentic. And I think those pressures are normalized because we expect that in a job interview, it's only self-promotional or a networking context is something where people feel that they really cannot be authentic. And sometimes what I like to do is just name that pressure.

In a job interview, I would say that's a classic experience where people tend to feel very inauthentic. And I think those pressures are normalized because we expect that in a job interview, it's only self-promotional or a networking context is something where people feel that they really cannot be authentic. And sometimes what I like to do is just name that pressure.

In a job interview, I would say that's a classic experience where people tend to feel very inauthentic. And I think those pressures are normalized because we expect that in a job interview, it's only self-promotional or a networking context is something where people feel that they really cannot be authentic. And sometimes what I like to do is just name that pressure.

It can help relieve that for all of us involved. If I'm at a networking event, to tell someone i know this is awkward but we're here to meet strategically this is not like a normal social setting and just by saying that somehow it relaxes the impression management concerns that we have