Erica Bailey

My advisor or one of my advisors, Adam Galinsky, has this work about disinhibition and how things like being anonymous online, being able to pass a message anonymously to someone else or having a drink can help us feel free from these social constraints to express how we really feel. Unfortunately, on social media, sometimes that comes across really negatively.

My advisor or one of my advisors, Adam Galinsky, has this work about disinhibition and how things like being anonymous online, being able to pass a message anonymously to someone else or having a drink can help us feel free from these social constraints to express how we really feel. Unfortunately, on social media, sometimes that comes across really negatively.

My advisor or one of my advisors, Adam Galinsky, has this work about disinhibition and how things like being anonymous online, being able to pass a message anonymously to someone else or having a drink can help us feel free from these social constraints to express how we really feel. Unfortunately, on social media, sometimes that comes across really negatively.

But sometimes having that moment with someone else where you're sharing a glass of wine and you feel like, oh, yeah, maybe these concerns I had about how this conversation would go were in my head and I can sort of relax into the moment and be really present with this person that I'm talking to.

But sometimes having that moment with someone else where you're sharing a glass of wine and you feel like, oh, yeah, maybe these concerns I had about how this conversation would go were in my head and I can sort of relax into the moment and be really present with this person that I'm talking to.

But sometimes having that moment with someone else where you're sharing a glass of wine and you feel like, oh, yeah, maybe these concerns I had about how this conversation would go were in my head and I can sort of relax into the moment and be really present with this person that I'm talking to.

Thinking our way into authenticity or trying to maybe just look inwards to find that core central self that's really going to make us happy is challenging because, you know, social psychologists would say, if you look inwards, there's not really anything there. What you have is like almost a mess of data. You have all these impulses.

Thinking our way into authenticity or trying to maybe just look inwards to find that core central self that's really going to make us happy is challenging because, you know, social psychologists would say, if you look inwards, there's not really anything there. What you have is like almost a mess of data. You have all these impulses.

Thinking our way into authenticity or trying to maybe just look inwards to find that core central self that's really going to make us happy is challenging because, you know, social psychologists would say, if you look inwards, there's not really anything there. What you have is like almost a mess of data. You have all these impulses.

You have all these decisions that you've made, some of which you're proud of, some of which you're not, some of which you are proud of in the moment. And now you've come to regret. And so turning inwards, you are left to try and sort out or try to understand sometimes really conflicting bits of data about who you are.

You have all these decisions that you've made, some of which you're proud of, some of which you're not, some of which you are proud of in the moment. And now you've come to regret. And so turning inwards, you are left to try and sort out or try to understand sometimes really conflicting bits of data about who you are.

You have all these decisions that you've made, some of which you're proud of, some of which you're not, some of which you are proud of in the moment. And now you've come to regret. And so turning inwards, you are left to try and sort out or try to understand sometimes really conflicting bits of data about who you are.

And so what I often recommend to people is instead of focusing too much internally where things like self-criticism or self-doubt or social comparison can come into play, sometimes it helps to look outwardly and think about those situations where you really felt authentic. Hmm. as clues for who you are. You can also think about trying on different identities.

And so what I often recommend to people is instead of focusing too much internally where things like self-criticism or self-doubt or social comparison can come into play, sometimes it helps to look outwardly and think about those situations where you really felt authentic. Hmm. as clues for who you are. You can also think about trying on different identities.

And so what I often recommend to people is instead of focusing too much internally where things like self-criticism or self-doubt or social comparison can come into play, sometimes it helps to look outwardly and think about those situations where you really felt authentic. Hmm. as clues for who you are. You can also think about trying on different identities.

Like maybe I don't know if I like playing pickleball, for example, that's my new identity. And so you have to try it and you can feel in that moment, pay attention to how that moment makes you feel. Does it make you feel alive? Does it make you feel connected with who you are? And if it doesn't, no harm, no foul. Now you've learned something important from that situation.

Like maybe I don't know if I like playing pickleball, for example, that's my new identity. And so you have to try it and you can feel in that moment, pay attention to how that moment makes you feel. Does it make you feel alive? Does it make you feel connected with who you are? And if it doesn't, no harm, no foul. Now you've learned something important from that situation.

Like maybe I don't know if I like playing pickleball, for example, that's my new identity. And so you have to try it and you can feel in that moment, pay attention to how that moment makes you feel. Does it make you feel alive? Does it make you feel connected with who you are? And if it doesn't, no harm, no foul. Now you've learned something important from that situation.

Exactly. It's like a way to learn more about yourself, become more aware of who you are through reflecting on these experiences or through going out and having those experiences and bringing back self-knowledge into that internal experience.

Exactly. It's like a way to learn more about yourself, become more aware of who you are through reflecting on these experiences or through going out and having those experiences and bringing back self-knowledge into that internal experience.