Esther Perel

It kind of goes together.

So generally, I give you an out because I'm telling you, even if you had good reasons and you don't feel guilty about what you did, you need to be able to feel guilty for what it did to your partner.

Have empathy.

Have empathy and take responsibility.

It's both.

It's always the empathy and the accountability.

It's two parts.

And then...

What are you doing to give value back to your relationship?

You now have to prove to your partner because a betrayal is a devaluation of the other person.

I didn't think of you.

I didn't care about what it would do to you.

I put myself first.

It's all of that.

What are you doing now to redeem the relationship?

And that's on you.

And that one of the main ways you do it is that instead of waiting for me to ask you another question, did you, did you come to this restaurant?

Did you take her here?

Did you go there?

You are the one who say, when we pass in front of the restaurant and we drive there and you say, we didn't come here and you preempt me.