Esther Perel

Yeah.

That is the movement I see. And... I think that we lived for a long time in a system that was more contracted. I'm going to give it to you from the point of view of relationships. For a long time, people lived in tribes, communities, villages, and they still do in the majority of the world, mind you. And the relationships are organized around duty and obligation, around loyalty and community.

That is the movement I see. And... I think that we lived for a long time in a system that was more contracted. I'm going to give it to you from the point of view of relationships. For a long time, people lived in tribes, communities, villages, and they still do in the majority of the world, mind you. And the relationships are organized around duty and obligation, around loyalty and community.

And there's a lot of clarity. I mean, there's been polarization always. There's churches fought each other, tribes fought each other. It's not like we haven't been polarized. But it was slightly different because every one of these hierarchical structures, communities, and religions provided people with a good sense of clarity and certainty.

And there's a lot of clarity. I mean, there's been polarization always. There's churches fought each other, tribes fought each other. It's not like we haven't been polarized. But it was slightly different because every one of these hierarchical structures, communities, and religions provided people with a good sense of clarity and certainty.

What you didn't have is personal freedom or personal expression.

What you didn't have is personal freedom or personal expression.

We moved with the modern era and to a system of relationships where for the first time we began to switch from duty and obligation, we moved to choice and option. And basically at the center now of relationships is the individual in search of a community. Not an individual in the community in search of personal freedom and expression.

We moved with the modern era and to a system of relationships where for the first time we began to switch from duty and obligation, we moved to choice and option. And basically at the center now of relationships is the individual in search of a community. Not an individual in the community in search of personal freedom and expression.

And you have more freedom than you've ever had, but you're more alone than you've ever been. And you are crippled with uncertainty and with self-doubt because you have a tremendous amount of decisions to make when you have freedom. You can decide so many aspects of your life today that were never available, talking in the West primarily.

And you have more freedom than you've ever had, but you're more alone than you've ever been. And you are crippled with uncertainty and with self-doubt because you have a tremendous amount of decisions to make when you have freedom. You can decide so many aspects of your life today that were never available, talking in the West primarily.

And with that, the burdens of the self have never been heavier. And it's all ruled by the rule of authenticity, meaning being true to myself. Now, how do I know what is true to myself with such absolute certainty? That is really exhausting. That's difficult. So you add to that that.

And with that, the burdens of the self have never been heavier. And it's all ruled by the rule of authenticity, meaning being true to myself. Now, how do I know what is true to myself with such absolute certainty? That is really exhausting. That's difficult. So you add to that that.

The speed with which technology is transforming us, this is one of the biggest revolutions that we're going to go through. And people are dizzy and they are anxious and they are uncertain. And we know that anxiety and trauma constricts our imagination. And so we go into a contraction again. And we are looking for people to give us some relief and some certainty. And autocracy comes with that.

The speed with which technology is transforming us, this is one of the biggest revolutions that we're going to go through. And people are dizzy and they are anxious and they are uncertain. And we know that anxiety and trauma constricts our imagination. And so we go into a contraction again. And we are looking for people to give us some relief and some certainty. And autocracy comes with that.

And that's the motion that we are in now. So we become less welcoming. We become less tolerant. We start to see other people as threat, what they take away rather than what they bring. And this is not the first time by far. I mean, it's really important at this moment to listen to historians as well so that we get a sense that

And that's the motion that we are in now. So we become less welcoming. We become less tolerant. We start to see other people as threat, what they take away rather than what they bring. And this is not the first time by far. I mean, it's really important at this moment to listen to historians as well so that we get a sense that

but it hasn't happened with that kind of speed and that kind of intensity maybe ever, or at least, you know, the industrial one, we had the agrarian one before, but I think that that's what we are in. And I went to, to South by last week and I did a conversation with the, with the futurist, Amy Webb. And, you know, she was giving the predictions of the future and, and,

but it hasn't happened with that kind of speed and that kind of intensity maybe ever, or at least, you know, the industrial one, we had the agrarian one before, but I think that that's what we are in. And I went to, to South by last week and I did a conversation with the, with the futurist, Amy Webb. And, you know, she was giving the predictions of the future and, and,

Half the slides, not half the slides, but many, was like, this is happening and you don't need people anymore. And this is happening and you don't need people anymore. And everybody's clapping. And I'm thinking, these people are cheering their own extinction. I mean, what is happening to us?