Esther Perel
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
So then there is, what do we talk about?
What is candid communication around physicality?
It's even, I touch you, do you like it?
I just saw you twitch.
Do you want me to continue?
Shall I stop?
Instead of guessing, they seem to like it, they don't seem to like it, I don't know.
I do, they don't respond.
Is it because of me?
Is it because they're tired?
Okay, I won't do it anymore.
Ask, check in, talk.
Sometimes you may get unpleasant answers.
That's okay.
So that's the first thing.
Then you have discrepancy of desire.
You know, what happened there?
I think that there is a big difference between sex and eroticism.
Between doing the act, for which you may do a lot and feel very little.
and doing very little for which you may feel a lot, which is the erotic that involves your imagination, touch, meaning.