Esther Perel

I'm done with this. No, I can see the humor in this.

But sometimes people don't see that. And so you have both voices. The one that is taking this light and is taking this with humor and the one that is actually sending a message. Sometimes they're there alone. Sometimes they're there with the partner. And I raise my hand. I say, me too. I've had those thoughts. But let's be honest for a minute.

But sometimes people don't see that. And so you have both voices. The one that is taking this light and is taking this with humor and the one that is actually sending a message. Sometimes they're there alone. Sometimes they're there with the partner. And I raise my hand. I say, me too. I've had those thoughts. But let's be honest for a minute.

Come on, we can't start a conversation if we don't at least include this. It's another way of saying relationship ambivalence is a part of being in a relationship.

Come on, we can't start a conversation if we don't at least include this. It's another way of saying relationship ambivalence is a part of being in a relationship.

But I don't know.

But I don't know.

But you think it has something to do with the perfection? That people are, you know, it's like bad investment?

But you think it has something to do with the perfection? That people are, you know, it's like bad investment?

That's different.

That's different.

This is romantic consumerism. This is transaction. You wasted my time. That's an amazing statement to make on a relationship. You know, it wasn't worth it. It didn't deliver. It didn't deliver. It had a poor ROI. I mean, it's really, we have done an interesting thing, right? We've brought psychology to the business world and we've brought the market to the relational world.

This is romantic consumerism. This is transaction. You wasted my time. That's an amazing statement to make on a relationship. You know, it wasn't worth it. It didn't deliver. It didn't deliver. It had a poor ROI. I mean, it's really, we have done an interesting thing, right? We've brought psychology to the business world and we've brought the market to the relational world.

The business mentality into our relationship, you know, is it worth my time? Should I invest in here? I don't, you know, when you really look at what it does to people, it's not the most pleasant thing.

The business mentality into our relationship, you know, is it worth my time? Should I invest in here? I don't, you know, when you really look at what it does to people, it's not the most pleasant thing.

Nuanced and less goal-oriented. Less outcome-driven.

Nuanced and less goal-oriented. Less outcome-driven.

It's like the experience itself has value. The process is interesting. You know, as they often call the journey. But it's really, the experience itself has meaning and value of its own. It doesn't get measured by the outcome. I would apply this to a lot of things in life. But it is the fundamental difference between task-oriented versus relationally oriented. Yeah.

It's like the experience itself has value. The process is interesting. You know, as they often call the journey. But it's really, the experience itself has meaning and value of its own. It doesn't get measured by the outcome. I would apply this to a lot of things in life. But it is the fundamental difference between task-oriented versus relationally oriented. Yeah.

Task-oriented is what does it deliver? What do I get from this? What's in it for me? This is an amazing expression. It doesn't even translate in French. What's in it for me?