Esther Perel

And that means diversifying your intimate connections or your deep connections. For me, intimacy doesn't mean sexual either. It just means people that are important to you, that accompany you through the life stages and through the big events in life. These three things, expectations, calibrating expectations, diversifying your social connections, and taking risks and doing new things,

And that means diversifying your intimate connections or your deep connections. For me, intimacy doesn't mean sexual either. It just means people that are important to you, that accompany you through the life stages and through the big events in life. These three things, expectations, calibrating expectations, diversifying your social connections, and taking risks and doing new things,

is the research of Eli Finkel for driving relationships. But then in that piece, I think play is essential. Playfulness, it's huge. And it is actually the quality of emotions that is the least talked about.

is the research of Eli Finkel for driving relationships. But then in that piece, I think play is essential. Playfulness, it's huge. And it is actually the quality of emotions that is the least talked about.

All the time. Humor is essential. It's an essential salve and balm in my relationship. I can be in the middle of an argument and then I start to laugh. And then I just get perspective and we just kind of ground ourselves back again. It's flirting. It's teasing. It's making fun of.

All the time. Humor is essential. It's an essential salve and balm in my relationship. I can be in the middle of an argument and then I start to laugh. And then I just get perspective and we just kind of ground ourselves back again. It's flirting. It's teasing. It's making fun of.

it's uh it's it's that whole realm of um we're not really serious and we don't take ourselves that serious and what happens when relationships are taking themselves very serious and they're not playing look i had a teacher who once said to me if a couple comes to you for therapy and there is absolutely zero humor left it is diagnostic really Now, is it true? Nobody has proven that scientifically.

it's uh it's it's that whole realm of um we're not really serious and we don't take ourselves that serious and what happens when relationships are taking themselves very serious and they're not playing look i had a teacher who once said to me if a couple comes to you for therapy and there is absolutely zero humor left it is diagnostic really Now, is it true? Nobody has proven that scientifically.

But what you know is that humor, and if you listen to my podcast, if you listen to the sessions on Where Should We Begin or on How Is Work, you'll see in the middle of talking about trauma, painful event, major fights, strife, I laugh with them.

But what you know is that humor, and if you listen to my podcast, if you listen to the sessions on Where Should We Begin or on How Is Work, you'll see in the middle of talking about trauma, painful event, major fights, strife, I laugh with them.

I manage to see if they can see themselves, if they have a bit of distance, of perspective, if they understand sometimes the absurdity of the things that we get into, the things over which we fight, the way we do it. Even if it's just a glimmer, a smile on the side, on the corner, I know they know that I know that we know. And it creates that complicity and it invites a new possibility.

I manage to see if they can see themselves, if they have a bit of distance, of perspective, if they understand sometimes the absurdity of the things that we get into, the things over which we fight, the way we do it. Even if it's just a glimmer, a smile on the side, on the corner, I know they know that I know that we know. And it creates that complicity and it invites a new possibility.

If you want to hold on to righteousness, to I am right, to victimization, to I have the view that is the only view that matters and only my perception and my experience is the truth. then you are in a polarized system that is rigid and unyielding humor and play is possibility possibility invites change change invites healing yes

If you want to hold on to righteousness, to I am right, to victimization, to I have the view that is the only view that matters and only my perception and my experience is the truth. then you are in a polarized system that is rigid and unyielding humor and play is possibility possibility invites change change invites healing yes

need to continue the healing journey of that came out in the last couple years with being at home and you know not doing things the way they used to be I will answer this in two ways the way that I experienced the the pandemic so in the first in the beginning right after I left you I went back to New York and I went in lockdown

need to continue the healing journey of that came out in the last couple years with being at home and you know not doing things the way they used to be I will answer this in two ways the way that I experienced the the pandemic so in the first in the beginning right after I left you I went back to New York and I went in lockdown

and basically it was in the you know suddenly kind of i got gripped with a bit of a panic and primarily because i thought i can't catch this thing because if i catch it i am now suddenly considered elderly i'm past 60. but you're 35. yeah yeah

and basically it was in the you know suddenly kind of i got gripped with a bit of a panic and primarily because i thought i can't catch this thing because if i catch it i am now suddenly considered elderly i'm past 60. but you're 35. yeah yeah

for the pandemic it changed it suddenly shifted overnight i became elderly and that meant i wasn't sure if we entered the hospital me or jack that we will pass the triage interesting and he's older than me And I got really, really scared. I had a lot of post-traumatic stress symptoms that are very much connected to the Holocaust and to my family experience.

for the pandemic it changed it suddenly shifted overnight i became elderly and that meant i wasn't sure if we entered the hospital me or jack that we will pass the triage interesting and he's older than me And I got really, really scared. I had a lot of post-traumatic stress symptoms that are very much connected to the Holocaust and to my family experience.