Esther Perel

But it is a subjective experience.

The fact that you feel certain things, that's the next question.

Is it that because you feel it, that makes it real and true?

We have always understood phenomenology as it is my subjective experience.

And that's what makes it true.

But that doesn't mean it is true.

So we are so quick to want to say because I feel close and loved and intimate.

It is love.

That it is never frictionless?

attending to your every need, which you express with three different sounds, and the person guesses, and guesses as if they were inside of you, because they are an extension of you, and you hold them in your arms like this, and they are 18 centimeters from your face, and you have that eye-to-eye contact that is the most profound experience of recognition.

And that is the embodied piece that we start to lose.

After that, you become an adult.

And that means that the person here is not just there for you.

They too have needs.

They too have a history and memories and feelings, right?

and reactions.

And the relationship becomes this dialogue between two people, otherness, and a bridge that you cross to go visit somebody on the other side.

I know that we are all asking those very questions.

We know that we can anthropomorphize.

We know what we can do to make the AI become more human, feel more human.