Esther Perel

That sense that overnight, this whole life I have built could just disappear like this. And it was irrational. I was terrified that Jack would die, to the point, you wanted to know about humor in my relationship? So we are in the middle of construction at the time, and the workers, and at the point he comes to me and he says, I asked the workers to dig a hole in the garden. I said, oh yeah, why?

That sense that overnight, this whole life I have built could just disappear like this. And it was irrational. I was terrified that Jack would die, to the point, you wanted to know about humor in my relationship? So we are in the middle of construction at the time, and the workers, and at the point he comes to me and he says, I asked the workers to dig a hole in the garden. I said, oh yeah, why?

He said, so that when I die, you can just roll me right in. Oh my God, yeah.

He said, so that when I die, you can just roll me right in. Oh my God, yeah.

But I cracked up because he showed me, girl, you gripped in fear. And I just started to laugh. And I just realized, no, no, no, he's not dead. Because I was ready to stop construction. I said, we're not making this.

But I cracked up because he showed me, girl, you gripped in fear. And I just started to laugh. And I just realized, no, no, no, he's not dead. Because I was ready to stop construction. I said, we're not making this.

it's more like we will not survive no way i was i really when it's post-traumatic it's it's trauma is the word right so i really was very very very scared and his humor diffused it for me and just brought me back and said we're continuing to build we're gonna live we're gonna survive don't worry girl it's like

it's more like we will not survive no way i was i really when it's post-traumatic it's it's trauma is the word right so i really was very very very scared and his humor diffused it for me and just brought me back and said we're continuing to build we're gonna live we're gonna survive don't worry girl it's like

So this was one, and it slowly, you know, I entered into the long term of the pandemic, and it dissolved. And that's when I understood this came out of that. I missed my friends. I missed my dinner parties. I missed intimacy. And I created a host of different group experiences, pods. I had a movie club on Zoom on three continents. I had a book club.

So this was one, and it slowly, you know, I entered into the long term of the pandemic, and it dissolved. And that's when I understood this came out of that. I missed my friends. I missed my dinner parties. I missed intimacy. And I created a host of different group experiences, pods. I had a movie club on Zoom on three continents. I had a book club.

I had a yoga group that met four times a week still till now that is over two continents.

I had a yoga group that met four times a week still till now that is over two continents.

And I had a hiking group. I had a swimming group in the summer. And then one day I said, I need to play and I need to continue to have conversations where I learn something new. I was so freaking tired of talking about the pandemic all the time. And I said, I'm going to create a game, not having any idea of what this thing was going to become and what it represented.

And I had a hiking group. I had a swimming group in the summer. And then one day I said, I need to play and I need to continue to have conversations where I learn something new. I was so freaking tired of talking about the pandemic all the time. And I said, I'm going to create a game, not having any idea of what this thing was going to become and what it represented.

I just thought, oh, I want to do something creative and I'm going to, I want people to be able to talk about something that isn't just like, you know, when you live six months like this in lockdown you begin to have the same conversation so I just thought how am I going to make couples have fun Get energized, you know, be curious about each other, talk about something else.

I just thought, oh, I want to do something creative and I'm going to, I want people to be able to talk about something that isn't just like, you know, when you live six months like this in lockdown you begin to have the same conversation so I just thought how am I going to make couples have fun Get energized, you know, be curious about each other, talk about something else.

And I thought we need to play because play is a container. Play gives you the possibility to take risks, to talk about things that you would otherwise not talk about because it's under the guise of play. Play allows you to ask questions that you would otherwise not ask, certainly not to your partner, because we get more shy.

And I thought we need to play because play is a container. Play gives you the possibility to take risks, to talk about things that you would otherwise not talk about because it's under the guise of play. Play allows you to ask questions that you would otherwise not ask, certainly not to your partner, because we get more shy.

with the people that we live with than with strangers sometimes you know you're more daring to ask sometimes questions to strangers or people you've just met than the person you live with for decades on end and I just so play became very very central when when you play you still you still are able to lift yourself from the ground.

with the people that we live with than with strangers sometimes you know you're more daring to ask sometimes questions to strangers or people you've just met than the person you live with for decades on end and I just so play became very very central when when you play you still you still are able to lift yourself from the ground.