Esther Perel

And you feel the vulnerability of the change of that balance. You feel that you are more reliant or dependent on your partner. And that is not the way that you've usually liked it because you've always made sure that you can stand on your own two feet.

And is that fear reinforced by him or it's really something that you bring with you?

And is that fear reinforced by him or it's really something that you bring with you?

And is that fear reinforced by him or it's really something that you bring with you?

So it's purely in my head as somebody who's been very independent and trying to figure out how to... So this already is a big... It's a big starting point, is your ability to say, look... I from whatever happened to me in my life, I decided that nobody would ever have any power over me, that I was going to be in control. Nobody could take advantage. I can take care of myself.

So it's purely in my head as somebody who's been very independent and trying to figure out how to... So this already is a big... It's a big starting point, is your ability to say, look... I from whatever happened to me in my life, I decided that nobody would ever have any power over me, that I was going to be in control. Nobody could take advantage. I can take care of myself.

So it's purely in my head as somebody who's been very independent and trying to figure out how to... So this already is a big... It's a big starting point, is your ability to say, look... I from whatever happened to me in my life, I decided that nobody would ever have any power over me, that I was going to be in control. Nobody could take advantage. I can take care of myself.

I don't depend on anybody beyond a certain level. And I have done this well. And then what happens when you leave work as that position, which was one of the symbols of your independence and all of that, is that you are in transition. And transition is by definition no longer here and not yet there. That's what transition means. So in transition, you are of balance.

I don't depend on anybody beyond a certain level. And I have done this well. And then what happens when you leave work as that position, which was one of the symbols of your independence and all of that, is that you are in transition. And transition is by definition no longer here and not yet there. That's what transition means. So in transition, you are of balance.

I don't depend on anybody beyond a certain level. And I have done this well. And then what happens when you leave work as that position, which was one of the symbols of your independence and all of that, is that you are in transition. And transition is by definition no longer here and not yet there. That's what transition means. So in transition, you are of balance.

It is the nature of that change to be of balance. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just unknown to you, unfamiliar. And here is your opportunity. You have a great guy. that you know is valuing you, that is not going to take advantage of what you call feeling a little bit more precarious, more unbalanced, more unsure of myself and all of that.

It is the nature of that change to be of balance. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just unknown to you, unfamiliar. And here is your opportunity. You have a great guy. that you know is valuing you, that is not going to take advantage of what you call feeling a little bit more precarious, more unbalanced, more unsure of myself and all of that.

It is the nature of that change to be of balance. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just unknown to you, unfamiliar. And here is your opportunity. You have a great guy. that you know is valuing you, that is not going to take advantage of what you call feeling a little bit more precarious, more unbalanced, more unsure of myself and all of that.

This is your opportunity to really do some repair from the dowry of your childhood and to actually allow yourself to lean on someone and to know that you can and to have someone show up for you.

This is your opportunity to really do some repair from the dowry of your childhood and to actually allow yourself to lean on someone and to know that you can and to have someone show up for you.

This is your opportunity to really do some repair from the dowry of your childhood and to actually allow yourself to lean on someone and to know that you can and to have someone show up for you.

So instead of how do I empower myself, I would actually invite you to say, how do I allow myself for the first time ever to take advantage of this big transition and lean on someone and learn and experience the depth of trust? Something I've yearned for my whole life and have never allowed myself.

So instead of how do I empower myself, I would actually invite you to say, how do I allow myself for the first time ever to take advantage of this big transition and lean on someone and learn and experience the depth of trust? Something I've yearned for my whole life and have never allowed myself.

So instead of how do I empower myself, I would actually invite you to say, how do I allow myself for the first time ever to take advantage of this big transition and lean on someone and learn and experience the depth of trust? Something I've yearned for my whole life and have never allowed myself.

I heard that.