Evelyn Tribole

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We Can Do Hard Things · What Is Intuitive Eating? Evelyn Tribole on Trusting Your Body · 16 Jan 2025 podcast

Was there teasing involved in what your parents do and did the parenting match? their normal parenting style. And often what I see is the teasing goes undisciplined and it makes it seem like it's okay. Then we look at grandparents, aunties and uncles. What was the messaging there? Was there body gossip when you went to family events?

And what's really sad now is I am seeing patients who are second and third generational dieters. Their grandma's been dieting. And so you get that, and then that's just our family of origin. And now let's expand to the world around us. Social media, media, media, all of these messages that you are one bite away, man, from killing yourself, or you're one bite away from curing yourself.

And eating is so much more nuanced than that. And so it gets really, really complex. And the thing I like to emphasize with parents, I have not yet met a parent who doesn't want the best for their kids. And a lot of these things they do are a couple of things. One, it's really well-meaning.

And sometimes, obviously, I don't know your parents, but sometimes what's happening is the parents are projecting their own insecurities onto their kids. They doubt their ability. I'll give you an example with my son. It came up as you were giving your story. When he was two years old, I made this amazing meal. I just, I remember it. Lasagna, salad, my favorite cake.

I don't know why I did it all for me, but I did. And the family loved it too. So I serve everyone the same size of cake. He finishes his meal. He finished his cake and he looks at me, goes more mommy. And the mommy in me is thinking, dude, you've had enough to eat. But the intuitive is like, you know what? Let him have cake. I've served him another piece, the exact same size. You know what he did?

he ate one piece, he ate one bite rather, and off he went. And so what that does, I was thinking, my God, if my patients that I see their parents witness that, they see the self-regulation, but if they are tightly wound and they're afraid, they might over-regulate and say, oh, you know, do you think you really need that piece? Or in the case of your dad, you know, what is your tummy telling you?

What's your messages? And those kinds of things. So it gets really, really complex. And One of the things I aspire to for families is, you know, diet culture out there is just so, so nasty and so pathological. And the idea of changing culture is so big. But what if we simplify and said, you know, what if we end the legacy of diet culture at our own kitchen table, at least home? Yeah.

Is a safer space to the degree that that's possible. We don't disparage bodies. We don't disparage food and those kinds of things because the world outside is tough enough. And I have a lot of young parents who really, when they hear that message, like, oh, I can aspire to, I can do that.

I want to do that for my kids because they understand the suffering that they've been through with all the dieting and all the stuff that goes on, all the noise around diet culture.

And so that's done on a regular basis. And I want to emphasize generally one episode is not going to make or break a kid's childhood. So parents out there thinking, oh, my God, I did that with my kids. Like, what do you do on a regular basis is what I would be looking at. That's a really, really good point.

It's trusting. And you know, and I love what you just said. And that is my body is working. And that's something I have a lot of my patients do is to identify when their body is working. They'll come in sometimes and they're really pissed off because they got really, really hungry and ate a lot, a lot of food. It's like, well, let's unpack this and see what's going on.

Oh, well, they had an early lunch at 11. They got pulled into a meeting after work. Then they went and worked out and they got home at eight o'clock. They haven't eaten in eight hours. And it's like, you know, I understand it was really annoying for you. And yet what I want you to see is your body's working. Your body's like, I have I haven't had enough to eat. Feed me, please.

And what's really needed besides the trust is consistency for the most part on a regular basis that if you want your body to trust you, I mean, even all this time of deprivation, it needs to be fed consistently, nourished consistently to the degree that that's possible. We don't have to be perfect. I want to emphasize it's not a perfect process.

You know what? It really depends. When I'm working with someone, they're usually seeing me because they're having more challenges than the average. And so sometimes I might create together, joint create some scaffolding to help them honor their hunger. And so having regular meals can be really helpful.

I'll never forget back when I was training, I was back in my competitive days of marathon training. I would go over to my grandma's who lived out in a rural area and because I could train with no stoplights and stuff. And she would eat dinner every day at five o'clock. And I'm like, I'm not hungry. But by the end of the week, I was hungry at five. Because our bodies get used to this.

So yeah, that can be a method if that's helpful. I would certainly check that out and experiment and see.

Basically, I would say it's having self-efficacy. You trust yourself and you don't rely on external or other people to make decisions, whether it's around your eating, career choices, all of those kinds of things. So it's trusting your inner guidance. Yeah. Yeah.

Oh, that's so true. Absolutely. Yeah. And it might work for that discoverer, but not for you, not your body. Yes.

Yeah.

I see it all the time. In fact, at least I get unsolicited emails and DMs that this has changed my life. Back when I was talking about the intercept of awareness, you know, that is our body's way of self-regulation at a biological level, but it includes emotions. And when you are in touch with that, it helps get your needs met. And what ends up happening is it clears up brain space.

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