Evelyn Tribole

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We Can Do Hard Things · What Is Intuitive Eating? Evelyn Tribole on Trusting Your Body · 16 Jan 2025 podcast

And by the way, I will say that when people are newish into intuitive eating and have a long history of deprivation, what sometimes can happen is that sadness of feeling full because you still want to eat can feel devastating. It's me. Oh yeah. Okay. So that is actually more of a reflection of the year spent in deprivation.

And so what I say is that will ease up as your body mind gets to see, oh, you're going to have that food again. You're going to have that food again. And you know, you can still eat it right now if you want to, but do you want to feel that way that you might be feeling? And maybe you can, you know, save it. Maybe you can make a promise. You're going to have it again.

You'll go back, you know, the next day or whatever it happens to be with that, what that food is. So that's, it's normal. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not aberrant because you're so sad that, oh, I'm so full. Or you're so excited about trying a new food. I get patients so excited. I really get to eat the cake. It's like, yeah. And then they feel guilty. They're so hard on themselves.

Then they feel guilty because they're excited. It's like, you know, you have freedom, maybe for the first time. And that's pretty exciting. Nothing wrong with that. It's normal to feel excited and anxious. All the feels, all at the same time. Nothing wrong with you. It's the human experience.

Yeah. And part of it is figuring out something really basic. What am I feeling? What do I need? And then sometimes I'll do even what I call the universal attunement question. And that is one of three answers. How do you feel right now? Pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral? And our brain naturally organizes that way in terms of like, don't like, or kind of neutral.

And if the description is, oh, I'm feeling unpleasant, then the question, oh, why might that be? Maybe they're hungry. Maybe they're sad and need companionship. But starting to get into that. And so many, we've been talking about women, have been so other focused at the expense of not getting your own needs met. And that's where the problem happens.

There's nothing wrong with being service oriented. But when your own needs are not being met, that's when it becomes a problem.

Yeah. And you know, what's interesting when people are sucked into diet culture, whether it's an eating disorder or just diet culture, dieting, or trying to eat the healthiest way that you can, there's, and this doesn't get talked about enough. There is a profound level of self-absorption that goes on and it's a hope. Thank you.

Whenever I bring it up to my patients, I'm really delicate because I don't want to sound like I'm criticizing them. But when you're so self-absorbed, first of all, it's understandable to survival response on some level, but that means you're not aware of what's going on around you. And it's it becomes really problematic.

And there was this famous study done during World War two, where they took men who were conscious objectors. They were very healthy and in mind and body, put them on a semi starvation diet. And what they found is that these men became incredibly self-absorbed. They became obsessed about eating again. This is during World War two. There was no TV food network and chefs.

So I was running around and all I could talk about is food and collect recipes and cookbooks. And some of those men developed eating disorders. Again, they started off very, very healthy in mind and body. So it's an example of what food restriction can do to your mind and body. It's really profound. We can't underestimate it.

Yeah, I want to do at least two. It's so hard. It's like asking to name your children. Which one should we start with? And one of the ones I want to start with is rejecting diet culture, rejecting diet mentality. There has been a misperception that you can't do intuitive eating if there's a part of you that still wants to be in a smaller body. And my response is, you know what?

You're a human being. We're living in a weight-obsessed culture. Of course you can come in. You can come into this and be confused and not sure. This is not a journey of perfection. This is not a journey of pass or fail. All are welcome. The issue... becomes what you're willing to act on is can you center the work of intuitive eating?

And yes, we acknowledge that this desire of weight loss is in the room, and we'll talk about that as much as you need to. But in other words, like on a computer, the active screen is the intuitive eating because that's inner base, as we were talking about earlier. And the moment you start focusing about weight, that becomes external and the work needs to be really internal.

So that you can start to experience and hear and respond in a timely manner and trust those messages in the body. And I think the other one, I think Elise would agree with me on this. Probably the most organizing principle of all of them would be aiming for satisfaction. Because ultimately, it's not satisfying to under eat. Ultimately, it's not.

satisfying to eat to a point where you're past comfortable full and so in a really weird way aiming for satisfaction gets you into balance and it's pleasure-based most people i have worked with have not ever come across that as a way to start working with their eating and so you get to get curious it's very very personal and so often i will say you know when i'm doing interviews if you want to take one step that could be a step what would be a satisfying meal for you

What would be a satisfying snack? And I've had patients say, I have no idea. And they start crying. They don't know what their favorite foods are because they have been so conditioned to follow the plan, to follow the guru. And it's important that we have a lot of self-compassion on this journey.

As you had been describing your own story, Glenn, and there's a lot of revelations that end up happening. It's like, oh my God, I was like this. And that's okay. You didn't know. You didn't know any better. Now you're starting to know differently. And when we know better, we do better. So those are two I'd be working with.

Another one, and this gets a lot of misunderstandings, is making peace with food, which basically means you can eat whatever food that you want to. And I have patients that are terrified of that. And I don't push that when they're not ready to work on that. And so sometimes I might look at, and there's a big psychology on this, a lot of research on habituation.

And habituation is this phenomenon dealing with novelty. So if you think about the first time you had a new pair of shoes that you just couldn't wait to have, or a new car, it could be an old car, but it's a new car to you and how exciting it is. And after a year of having us, I asked my ride. Yeah.

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