Father Stephen Gadberry

It was hard to get by with everything, and I didn't want to be another burden. And so that's so ingrained in me that it's hard for me to ask for help. So I can understand what it's like to not want to burden somebody. So how do we tell? I'm like, you're not a burden, buddy. You're not a burden. You may be screwed up. That doesn't mean you're a burden. You still got dignity, man.

It was hard to get by with everything, and I didn't want to be another burden. And so that's so ingrained in me that it's hard for me to ask for help. So I can understand what it's like to not want to burden somebody. So how do we tell? I'm like, you're not a burden, buddy. You're not a burden. You may be screwed up. That doesn't mean you're a burden. You still got dignity, man.

We're all screwed up. We all like fight with stuff. We wrestle with stuff. And I say screwed up in a loose way. It's just a tough thing. People just want to be loved, man. We just need to walk with people. You know, how do you, this goes, a lot of the stuff we were talking about earlier, man, I'm just, I'm trying to figure this thing out myself. I've been to a lot of school.

We're all screwed up. We all like fight with stuff. We wrestle with stuff. And I say screwed up in a loose way. It's just a tough thing. People just want to be loved, man. We just need to walk with people. You know, how do you, this goes, a lot of the stuff we were talking about earlier, man, I'm just, I'm trying to figure this thing out myself. I've been to a lot of school.

We're all screwed up. We all like fight with stuff. We wrestle with stuff. And I say screwed up in a loose way. It's just a tough thing. People just want to be loved, man. We just need to walk with people. You know, how do you, this goes, a lot of the stuff we were talking about earlier, man, I'm just, I'm trying to figure this thing out myself. I've been to a lot of school.

I have a lot of experiences. That don't mean I know what I'm doing. I'm just a lost fool in this thing called life. Every day waking up saying, God, help me to not be as, like a little bit less of a loser today than I was yesterday. And any way that I can help other people around me be a little bit less of a loser today than they were yesterday, like I'm doing what God's called me to do.

I have a lot of experiences. That don't mean I know what I'm doing. I'm just a lost fool in this thing called life. Every day waking up saying, God, help me to not be as, like a little bit less of a loser today than I was yesterday. And any way that I can help other people around me be a little bit less of a loser today than they were yesterday, like I'm doing what God's called me to do.

I have a lot of experiences. That don't mean I know what I'm doing. I'm just a lost fool in this thing called life. Every day waking up saying, God, help me to not be as, like a little bit less of a loser today than I was yesterday. And any way that I can help other people around me be a little bit less of a loser today than they were yesterday, like I'm doing what God's called me to do.

And that just means like, I have to be willing to sit with uncomfortable stuff. So then how do we I think that's where we can improve, is sitting with people in those moments when we don't have an answer. Because we want an answer. We want something to fix it. We want a treatment. And unfortunately, a bullet or a pill is often where the mind goes to.

And that just means like, I have to be willing to sit with uncomfortable stuff. So then how do we I think that's where we can improve, is sitting with people in those moments when we don't have an answer. Because we want an answer. We want something to fix it. We want a treatment. And unfortunately, a bullet or a pill is often where the mind goes to.

And that just means like, I have to be willing to sit with uncomfortable stuff. So then how do we I think that's where we can improve, is sitting with people in those moments when we don't have an answer. Because we want an answer. We want something to fix it. We want a treatment. And unfortunately, a bullet or a pill is often where the mind goes to.

And gosh, I think it may, I don't know if it was one of your episodes or not, just a recent one. I was just listening to it on the drive over here. But how somebody can be under the influence of something, and you're not thinking clearly in that moment, you know? And it's so easy to make a permanent decision in that split second.

And gosh, I think it may, I don't know if it was one of your episodes or not, just a recent one. I was just listening to it on the drive over here. But how somebody can be under the influence of something, and you're not thinking clearly in that moment, you know? And it's so easy to make a permanent decision in that split second.

And gosh, I think it may, I don't know if it was one of your episodes or not, just a recent one. I was just listening to it on the drive over here. But how somebody can be under the influence of something, and you're not thinking clearly in that moment, you know? And it's so easy to make a permanent decision in that split second.

But how do you sit with somebody in that moment and say, listen, I don't have an answer for you. I can't imagine how much it sucks for you, but I want to sit with you right now. Whatever we got to do, we'll do it. And that's hard because it requires us to surrender control because we want to fix it. Especially for guys, we like to fix stuff. We don't want to be a burden.

But how do you sit with somebody in that moment and say, listen, I don't have an answer for you. I can't imagine how much it sucks for you, but I want to sit with you right now. Whatever we got to do, we'll do it. And that's hard because it requires us to surrender control because we want to fix it. Especially for guys, we like to fix stuff. We don't want to be a burden.

But how do you sit with somebody in that moment and say, listen, I don't have an answer for you. I can't imagine how much it sucks for you, but I want to sit with you right now. Whatever we got to do, we'll do it. And that's hard because it requires us to surrender control because we want to fix it. Especially for guys, we like to fix stuff. We don't want to be a burden.

We want to get it done now. We don't like to ride things out. So there's so many things that go against the way that we're built. So many things that are pushing against our own DNA, the way we operate as men. But for us to just sit there in that tension, in those crosshairs, or that crossroads is... not having an answer. I think that's where we start. Like, what does that look like? I don't know.

We want to get it done now. We don't like to ride things out. So there's so many things that go against the way that we're built. So many things that are pushing against our own DNA, the way we operate as men. But for us to just sit there in that tension, in those crosshairs, or that crossroads is... not having an answer. I think that's where we start. Like, what does that look like? I don't know.

We want to get it done now. We don't like to ride things out. So there's so many things that go against the way that we're built. So many things that are pushing against our own DNA, the way we operate as men. But for us to just sit there in that tension, in those crosshairs, or that crossroads is... not having an answer. I think that's where we start. Like, what does that look like? I don't know.