Frances Cook

But that probably also means it's not an unbearable feeling if I'm able to do that, right?

Definitely.

I've got my strategy.

It's working.

I do think we get stuck in these loops and these patterns that you've mentioned and it's so common.

So if someone's listening to this and they've thought, you know what, I do think I'm stuck in some patterns here that aren't working for me.

Maybe even you've mentioned some that they're thinking, oh yeah, that could be me.

Where do people start in terms of really sitting down and getting honest with themselves and sifting through what could be holding them back and causing a bit of self-sabotage?

And is it something, especially if someone is in a committed relationship, should we do this with our partner or should we work on ourselves first?

How much do we intervene if we're thinking, I think my partner's got a one of those, but I don't know if they're aware of it.

Well, I've got a couple of lines for that.

You're giving me so much food for thought in this.

Okay, if someone is listening to this and there's only one thing they do differently after this, what do you hope it would be?

Oh, couldn't agree more.

Absolutely couldn't agree more.

It's like the flip side of the other saying that I also really like, wherever you go, there you are.

Yeah.

If you don't deal with your own stuff, you're just going to keep dragging it around with you and it'll keep popping up in new places.

I love that.

Oh, that's so much.