Frances Fry

But anytime there's any self-diagnosis, go to people who know you and love you and ask them.

And you don't even have to use the word imposter syndrome.

You can use the clinical definition.

In the sea of distortions, do you get the sense that I am overestimating my accomplishments, underestimating, or I'm just right on target?

And see where people come out.

I believe we are revealing it a lot more than to everyone else, but perhaps not to ourselves.

I love this question because I almost never think about it.

People come to me with a self-diagnosis of imposter syndrome and I help them overcome it.

So I'm not sure that I've ever helped anyone diagnose it, but that's what you do with your coaching.

So let me ask you,

That resonates because when people have self-diagnosed and they come and talk to me, they do indeed use that language.

I love the fixable part of any conversation.

So I'll give one really practical technique to begin with, which is when we acknowledge that we are not seeing reality accurately, what we want to do is get an accurate portrayal of reality that we believe in.

So what I want to do is substitute the mind games that are going on inside my head to distort things with an accounting of what's really going on so that I can at any point in time choose to visit the mind games in my head or go look at the accurate record.

The cool thing about this is that we can keep an accurate record even though we are also subject to distortion fields.

This blew my mind when we figured it out.

So the way to get an accurate record, even we, distorters, can give an accurate record if we do it in the moment.

So I want us to create a record in the moment about how things are going.

And what we have found is that we're pretty darn accurate.

That is, the objective performance and our subjective assessment are quite close to each other in the moment.