Fred Luskin

Well, I mean the clearest and simplest link is with the stress response. So when you're angry or when you're pissed off or when you're blaming, you have a internalized sense of threat. Someone out there has hurt you or disappointed you or left you and you're not okay. So that sense of not okay,

you know, leads the brain and it signals to the adrenals and all sorts of changes to prepare you to, you know, run away. And run away doesn't have to be physically run away. It could be, I'll never talk to them again. That's a form of flight or fight them, be hostile. But the more you're angry and the more you're blaming yourself,

you know, leads the brain and it signals to the adrenals and all sorts of changes to prepare you to, you know, run away. And run away doesn't have to be physically run away. It could be, I'll never talk to them again. That's a form of flight or fight them, be hostile. But the more you're angry and the more you're blaming yourself,

you know, leads the brain and it signals to the adrenals and all sorts of changes to prepare you to, you know, run away. And run away doesn't have to be physically run away. It could be, I'll never talk to them again. That's a form of flight or fight them, be hostile. But the more you're angry and the more you're blaming yourself,

the more you arouse that system, the more you trigger an adrenalized response, the more you train your body to accommodate cortisol, the more your brain gets used to that pathway of reaction, it develops practice effects. It becomes easier to do because the templates become laid down more succinctly.

the more you arouse that system, the more you trigger an adrenalized response, the more you train your body to accommodate cortisol, the more your brain gets used to that pathway of reaction, it develops practice effects. It becomes easier to do because the templates become laid down more succinctly.

the more you arouse that system, the more you trigger an adrenalized response, the more you train your body to accommodate cortisol, the more your brain gets used to that pathway of reaction, it develops practice effects. It becomes easier to do because the templates become laid down more succinctly.

The immediacy of arousal of anything that's a threat to us is the reason why long-term grievances are so dangerous.

The immediacy of arousal of anything that's a threat to us is the reason why long-term grievances are so dangerous.

The immediacy of arousal of anything that's a threat to us is the reason why long-term grievances are so dangerous.

There's a distinction made between constructive and destructive anger. So when our arousal and our physiology and our threats say we need to protect ourselves, anger can be a really good response. So if somebody is hurting your kid, get angry. It's really helpful. If you see an injustice, get angry. Notice it and recognize you want this to change.

There's a distinction made between constructive and destructive anger. So when our arousal and our physiology and our threats say we need to protect ourselves, anger can be a really good response. So if somebody is hurting your kid, get angry. It's really helpful. If you see an injustice, get angry. Notice it and recognize you want this to change.

There's a distinction made between constructive and destructive anger. So when our arousal and our physiology and our threats say we need to protect ourselves, anger can be a really good response. So if somebody is hurting your kid, get angry. It's really helpful. If you see an injustice, get angry. Notice it and recognize you want this to change.

The destructive anger is when anger does not lead to useful action. When it just becomes perseverative, and in a grievance, it actually becomes a substitute for action. In a chronic anger situation, there's a little bit of dopamine that you get, that pleasure chemical, ah, I'm doing something about it, when actually you're doing nothing constructive about it.

The destructive anger is when anger does not lead to useful action. When it just becomes perseverative, and in a grievance, it actually becomes a substitute for action. In a chronic anger situation, there's a little bit of dopamine that you get, that pleasure chemical, ah, I'm doing something about it, when actually you're doing nothing constructive about it.

The destructive anger is when anger does not lead to useful action. When it just becomes perseverative, and in a grievance, it actually becomes a substitute for action. In a chronic anger situation, there's a little bit of dopamine that you get, that pleasure chemical, ah, I'm doing something about it, when actually you're doing nothing constructive about it.

The dopamine is a response to an anticipated value, But in anger, you never get that anticipated value unless you actually do something and change.

The dopamine is a response to an anticipated value, But in anger, you never get that anticipated value unless you actually do something and change.

The dopamine is a response to an anticipated value, But in anger, you never get that anticipated value unless you actually do something and change.

So one time we brought them to the window of the fifth floor of the building on Stanford's campus. We opened the blinds and said, literally let the sun in that this murder is a horror, but it's in your past. And you want to make sure that this murder doesn't serve as like a full solar eclipse. And it doesn't mean that this didn't happen, but you can open back up to goodness.