Fred Luskin

because my unenforceable role was shouting at me, she can't do this. How dare she do this? Who is she to do this? I was gone for like an hour. My wife thought I was crazy enough to have gone back to California. She wondered, and I'm not blaming one shred of this on my mother-in-law,

because my unenforceable role was shouting at me, she can't do this. How dare she do this? Who is she to do this? I was gone for like an hour. My wife thought I was crazy enough to have gone back to California. She wondered, and I'm not blaming one shred of this on my mother-in-law,

because my unenforceable role was shouting at me, she can't do this. How dare she do this? Who is she to do this? I was gone for like an hour. My wife thought I was crazy enough to have gone back to California. She wondered, and I'm not blaming one shred of this on my mother-in-law,

I'm saying my rule, she broke my rule so strongly that I could only react that way because of the rule, not the reality of what she did.

I'm saying my rule, she broke my rule so strongly that I could only react that way because of the rule, not the reality of what she did.

I'm saying my rule, she broke my rule so strongly that I could only react that way because of the rule, not the reality of what she did.

So... Either during that run or later, I went to a pay phone. I didn't want to do it in the house. And I called up really close friends and I started to complain about my mother-in-law. And I got about 10 seconds in and the friend said, Fred, every time you go there, you call me to complain. And I looked at myself and I looked at him and said, but this one's serious.

So... Either during that run or later, I went to a pay phone. I didn't want to do it in the house. And I called up really close friends and I started to complain about my mother-in-law. And I got about 10 seconds in and the friend said, Fred, every time you go there, you call me to complain. And I looked at myself and I looked at him and said, but this one's serious.

So... Either during that run or later, I went to a pay phone. I didn't want to do it in the house. And I called up really close friends and I started to complain about my mother-in-law. And I got about 10 seconds in and the friend said, Fred, every time you go there, you call me to complain. And I looked at myself and I looked at him and said, but this one's serious.

And he said, I'm sure it's serious, but every single time you go there, you call us to complain about her and you want us to agree with you. So complain and we'll agree with you. But understand you do this every time. A light bulb went off. Wow. This woman owns me. She owns my nervous system. She owns my mind. She owns my feet. They take me to the phone. She owns me.

And he said, I'm sure it's serious, but every single time you go there, you call us to complain about her and you want us to agree with you. So complain and we'll agree with you. But understand you do this every time. A light bulb went off. Wow. This woman owns me. She owns my nervous system. She owns my mind. She owns my feet. They take me to the phone. She owns me.

And he said, I'm sure it's serious, but every single time you go there, you call us to complain about her and you want us to agree with you. So complain and we'll agree with you. But understand you do this every time. A light bulb went off. Wow. This woman owns me. She owns my nervous system. She owns my mind. She owns my feet. They take me to the phone. She owns me.

I mean, there's lots of information about how hostile thoughts, resentment, and blame are all negatives for long-term physical well-being. One of the studies that I liked when I was doing a lot of this was there was a linear relationship between blame and all cause like physical well-being. There is a good degree of evidence that hostile people have greater heart disease.

I mean, there's lots of information about how hostile thoughts, resentment, and blame are all negatives for long-term physical well-being. One of the studies that I liked when I was doing a lot of this was there was a linear relationship between blame and all cause like physical well-being. There is a good degree of evidence that hostile people have greater heart disease.

I mean, there's lots of information about how hostile thoughts, resentment, and blame are all negatives for long-term physical well-being. One of the studies that I liked when I was doing a lot of this was there was a linear relationship between blame and all cause like physical well-being. There is a good degree of evidence that hostile people have greater heart disease.

Yeah. And there was a recent study that linked what you're calling perseveration and anger. Both were linked to sleep quality.

Yeah. And there was a recent study that linked what you're calling perseveration and anger. Both were linked to sleep quality.

Yeah. And there was a recent study that linked what you're calling perseveration and anger. Both were linked to sleep quality.

Well, I mean the clearest and simplest link is with the stress response. So when you're angry or when you're pissed off or when you're blaming, you have a internalized sense of threat. Someone out there has hurt you or disappointed you or left you and you're not okay. So that sense of not okay,

Well, I mean the clearest and simplest link is with the stress response. So when you're angry or when you're pissed off or when you're blaming, you have a internalized sense of threat. Someone out there has hurt you or disappointed you or left you and you're not okay. So that sense of not okay,