Gabby Bernstein

And so as a result of not having an adult figure to help us process it, and definitely as a child not being able to process it, we unconsciously say, our brain says, never want to feel that again. I'm going to shut that down completely. And I'm going to do whatever it takes to protect against that feeling. And so as little, little people, we start building protectors.

And so as a result of not having an adult figure to help us process it, and definitely as a child not being able to process it, we unconsciously say, our brain says, never want to feel that again. I'm going to shut that down completely. And I'm going to do whatever it takes to protect against that feeling. And so as little, little people, we start building protectors.

And so as a result of not having an adult figure to help us process it, and definitely as a child not being able to process it, we unconsciously say, our brain says, never want to feel that again. I'm going to shut that down completely. And I'm going to do whatever it takes to protect against that feeling. And so as little, little people, we start building protectors.

And those protectors could be people pleasing, or it could be trying to be seen as a little kid, constantly asking for attention and wanting to be seen. And now they're like 50 years old and they're like checking their likes all day, thirsty for likes, right? It carries on for decades and decades. And so these protection mechanisms become the extreme patterns that we often shame most in ourselves.

And those protectors could be people pleasing, or it could be trying to be seen as a little kid, constantly asking for attention and wanting to be seen. And now they're like 50 years old and they're like checking their likes all day, thirsty for likes, right? It carries on for decades and decades. And so these protection mechanisms become the extreme patterns that we often shame most in ourselves.

And those protectors could be people pleasing, or it could be trying to be seen as a little kid, constantly asking for attention and wanting to be seen. And now they're like 50 years old and they're like checking their likes all day, thirsty for likes, right? It carries on for decades and decades. And so these protection mechanisms become the extreme patterns that we often shame most in ourselves.

And so with IFS, we can start to bring self, which is that part that these women would speak about. They would say, oh, well, sometimes I feel calm and sometimes I feel compassionate. That's just myself. That essence, that Buddha nature, the God within us, the love within us, the compassionate connection, it's like an inner parent, is always inside of us.

And so with IFS, we can start to bring self, which is that part that these women would speak about. They would say, oh, well, sometimes I feel calm and sometimes I feel compassionate. That's just myself. That essence, that Buddha nature, the God within us, the love within us, the compassionate connection, it's like an inner parent, is always inside of us.

And so with IFS, we can start to bring self, which is that part that these women would speak about. They would say, oh, well, sometimes I feel calm and sometimes I feel compassionate. That's just myself. That essence, that Buddha nature, the God within us, the love within us, the compassionate connection, it's like an inner parent, is always inside of us.

And self just has been blocked by these protectors. And so through the practice of IFS, we dismantle and calm and settle the protectors so that self can emerge. And in my book, what I'm doing is making this therapy self-help. It is not an IFS book, it's a self-help book, but now you understand why it's called self-help, right? Because when self emerges, self can help these younger parts.

And self just has been blocked by these protectors. And so through the practice of IFS, we dismantle and calm and settle the protectors so that self can emerge. And in my book, what I'm doing is making this therapy self-help. It is not an IFS book, it's a self-help book, but now you understand why it's called self-help, right? Because when self emerges, self can help these younger parts.

And self just has been blocked by these protectors. And so through the practice of IFS, we dismantle and calm and settle the protectors so that self can emerge. And in my book, what I'm doing is making this therapy self-help. It is not an IFS book, it's a self-help book, but now you understand why it's called self-help, right? Because when self emerges, self can help these younger parts.

And I did that through a four-step process, which we can work on today.

And I did that through a four-step process, which we can work on today.

And I did that through a four-step process, which we can work on today.

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Yeah.

Yeah.

There's no bad parts, yes.

There's no bad parts, yes.