Gabby Bernstein

Or maybe you have more awareness and you know that you're drinking over your childhood wounds. And you could say, well, I have a lot of compassion for myself when I pick up a drink. That's an opening. These are openings to start to open up a new perspective of the why behind the pattern.

Or maybe you have more awareness and you know that you're drinking over your childhood wounds. And you could say, well, I have a lot of compassion for myself when I pick up a drink. That's an opening. These are openings to start to open up a new perspective of the why behind the pattern.

Yeah, I'm grateful that you asked because in fact, I'll just take you through the steps because the four steps, it's called a four-step check-in in the self-help book. And the four steps are designed to help you become... curious and compassionate and connected to the part of you. So let's say that something may activate me in the moment. Maybe my husband says something and it super triggers me.

Yeah, I'm grateful that you asked because in fact, I'll just take you through the steps because the four steps, it's called a four-step check-in in the self-help book. And the four steps are designed to help you become... curious and compassionate and connected to the part of you. So let's say that something may activate me in the moment. Maybe my husband says something and it super triggers me.

Yeah, I'm grateful that you asked because in fact, I'll just take you through the steps because the four steps, it's called a four-step check-in in the self-help book. And the four steps are designed to help you become... curious and compassionate and connected to the part of you. So let's say that something may activate me in the moment. Maybe my husband says something and it super triggers me.

And I have enough awareness now to say, okay, you know what, Zach, I'm going to separate myself for a moment. Let me just step away because this is going to get ugly if I don't. Because I have a part that I call knives out. And when my husband triggers that part, knives are fucking out, man, okay? So I might say, okay, knives out, it's about to step in, so I'm going to step aside, right?

And I have enough awareness now to say, okay, you know what, Zach, I'm going to separate myself for a moment. Let me just step away because this is going to get ugly if I don't. Because I have a part that I call knives out. And when my husband triggers that part, knives are fucking out, man, okay? So I might say, okay, knives out, it's about to step in, so I'm going to step aside, right?

And I have enough awareness now to say, okay, you know what, Zach, I'm going to separate myself for a moment. Let me just step away because this is going to get ugly if I don't. Because I have a part that I call knives out. And when my husband triggers that part, knives are fucking out, man, okay? So I might say, okay, knives out, it's about to step in, so I'm going to step aside, right?

So then I have enough awareness. Now, most of the time, we don't have that. And for many, many years, I haven't. But I've done enough of this work now that it's in my system. I can see, oh, I'm not going to a good place. Let me step away. So I could step away and I could do the four-step check-in process. And so the first step would be to choose to check in.

So then I have enough awareness. Now, most of the time, we don't have that. And for many, many years, I haven't. But I've done enough of this work now that it's in my system. I can see, oh, I'm not going to a good place. Let me step away. So I could step away and I could do the four-step check-in process. And so the first step would be to choose to check in.

So then I have enough awareness. Now, most of the time, we don't have that. And for many, many years, I haven't. But I've done enough of this work now that it's in my system. I can see, oh, I'm not going to a good place. Let me step away. So I could step away and I could do the four-step check-in process. And so the first step would be to choose to check in.

And that choice began by separating myself. And the choice to check in is instead of checking out by knives out, losing my shit on him, just projecting and- Unconsciously reacting. Unconsciously reacting, becoming so blended with the reaction, becoming so righteous in the reaction to a very dark place, which could affect our six-year-old and affect him and affect the bond that we have.

And that choice began by separating myself. And the choice to check in is instead of checking out by knives out, losing my shit on him, just projecting and- Unconsciously reacting. Unconsciously reacting, becoming so blended with the reaction, becoming so righteous in the reaction to a very dark place, which could affect our six-year-old and affect him and affect the bond that we have.

And that choice began by separating myself. And the choice to check in is instead of checking out by knives out, losing my shit on him, just projecting and- Unconsciously reacting. Unconsciously reacting, becoming so blended with the reaction, becoming so righteous in the reaction to a very dark place, which could affect our six-year-old and affect him and affect the bond that we have.

So instead of going into knives out, I can choose to check inside instead of check out. That's step one. And that's when you focus your attention inward.

So instead of going into knives out, I can choose to check inside instead of check out. That's step one. And that's when you focus your attention inward.

So instead of going into knives out, I can choose to check inside instead of check out. That's step one. And that's when you focus your attention inward.

Exactly. Yes.

Exactly. Yes.

Exactly. Yes.