Gabby Bernstein

They're the little traumatized children or the experiences that were so impermissible, that were so scary, so shameful, so fearful, so traumatizing that we live our whole lives trying to avoid them and to protect against them. And the reason I don't want to touch them is because I want to teach people how to relate to the protectors.

And as the protectors begin to relax, they become a little bit more and more curious about the exiles. And that might guide them to IFS therapy or to another form of therapy where they can do one-on-one work with a trauma therapist or someone who specializes there. Because it's very frightening when people are in the world, like self-help people that aren't licensed and don't have the

And as the protectors begin to relax, they become a little bit more and more curious about the exiles. And that might guide them to IFS therapy or to another form of therapy where they can do one-on-one work with a trauma therapist or someone who specializes there. Because it's very frightening when people are in the world, like self-help people that aren't licensed and don't have the

And as the protectors begin to relax, they become a little bit more and more curious about the exiles. And that might guide them to IFS therapy or to another form of therapy where they can do one-on-one work with a trauma therapist or someone who specializes there. Because it's very frightening when people are in the world, like self-help people that aren't licensed and don't have the

ability to handle or hold the space that are like, I'm a trauma person, or let's rip off the bandaid. Like you better run the other fucking way if somebody says that to you, because these parts are being hidden for a reason. It's like a pressure cooker. If you just turned off, if you just started to open the pressure cooker, it would explode. We don't want to explode.

ability to handle or hold the space that are like, I'm a trauma person, or let's rip off the bandaid. Like you better run the other fucking way if somebody says that to you, because these parts are being hidden for a reason. It's like a pressure cooker. If you just turned off, if you just started to open the pressure cooker, it would explode. We don't want to explode.

ability to handle or hold the space that are like, I'm a trauma person, or let's rip off the bandaid. Like you better run the other fucking way if somebody says that to you, because these parts are being hidden for a reason. It's like a pressure cooker. If you just turned off, if you just started to open the pressure cooker, it would explode. We don't want to explode.

There's protection mechanisms that are doing a really good job keeping the big feelings And we just want to calm these protection mechanisms. And as they start to calm and we build up more self, we become safer inside and that safety, then we have more presence to bring to the exiles. So the exiles, they need our support, but I recommend IFS therapy for that.

There's protection mechanisms that are doing a really good job keeping the big feelings And we just want to calm these protection mechanisms. And as they start to calm and we build up more self, we become safer inside and that safety, then we have more presence to bring to the exiles. So the exiles, they need our support, but I recommend IFS therapy for that.

There's protection mechanisms that are doing a really good job keeping the big feelings And we just want to calm these protection mechanisms. And as they start to calm and we build up more self, we become safer inside and that safety, then we have more presence to bring to the exiles. So the exiles, they need our support, but I recommend IFS therapy for that.

Yeah, if you have an exile and you just try to go into it or you go do like some kind of journey or something and your trauma just emerges and then you come out of it and you're like, I'm living in it, you become blended in it again. When I remembered my trauma from my childhood, for many months, I was living in the little girl. I was so blended with that girl.

Yeah, if you have an exile and you just try to go into it or you go do like some kind of journey or something and your trauma just emerges and then you come out of it and you're like, I'm living in it, you become blended in it again. When I remembered my trauma from my childhood, for many months, I was living in the little girl. I was so blended with that girl.

Yeah, if you have an exile and you just try to go into it or you go do like some kind of journey or something and your trauma just emerges and then you come out of it and you're like, I'm living in it, you become blended in it again. When I remembered my trauma from my childhood, for many months, I was living in the little girl. I was so blended with that girl.

And thankfully I had all the resources and the therapy. And listen, not everybody's gonna be able to have access to a therapist. And thankfully there's more services these days that make it more affordable. But not everyone's going to have that access, and this book may be all they have. And so still the suggestion would be just begin by doing the inquiry with these protectors.

And thankfully I had all the resources and the therapy. And listen, not everybody's gonna be able to have access to a therapist. And thankfully there's more services these days that make it more affordable. But not everyone's going to have that access, and this book may be all they have. And so still the suggestion would be just begin by doing the inquiry with these protectors.

And thankfully I had all the resources and the therapy. And listen, not everybody's gonna be able to have access to a therapist. And thankfully there's more services these days that make it more affordable. But not everyone's going to have that access, and this book may be all they have. And so still the suggestion would be just begin by doing the inquiry with these protectors.

Don't go straight to the exile because the exile is a little scared. It's not even a little scared. It's terrified. And we want to not rip off that Band-Aid.

Don't go straight to the exile because the exile is a little scared. It's not even a little scared. It's terrified. And we want to not rip off that Band-Aid.

Don't go straight to the exile because the exile is a little scared. It's not even a little scared. It's terrified. And we want to not rip off that Band-Aid.

Well, the good news is that we're not trying to get rid of parts. We're just trying to calm them down. So for instance, my controller wrote 10 books in 14 years. We don't want to stop her. She's going right now after I leave you to go write another book at a commune. I'm going to go spend two days finishing a book, right? As I'm launching this one. And that's because there's inspiration.