Gabor Maté

But people carry their own traumas into our marriage, just like my wife and I did, which means we act out our traumas.

when our kids are small before we even realize they're reacting our trauma.

So that means we're passing on their traumas onto them, just like I did.

People can be stressed because of economic, social circumstances.

People can be stressed because

The social support, the clan, the tribe, the extended family is no longer there to support them, which incidentally is how we were meant to develop.

That's how we lived for hundreds of thousands of years until recently.

So for all these reasons, we live in a very stressed and fractured society.

Parents are stressed.

And if kids are genetically sensitive, and that's what's genetic here is sensitivity.

If they're sensitive, the more sensitive the child, the more they suffer.

And the more they suffer, the more they need to tune out.

I wouldn't say so much as attachment as attunement.

Attunement.

Okay.

The parents love their kids, you know, but inside that attachment, they're not attuned because of their own stuff that I just talked about.

So here's the good news.

When I wrote Scattered Minds, my book on ADHD, which is my first book written 26 years ago now, I took medication from my ADHD.

It was a much shorter book, a simpler book.

When I wrote my most recent book, The Myth of Normal, which is much more complex, larger,