Gabriel Mizrahi

It also probably hurt because it touched a part of you that is tender and it chimed with some feelings you might have about yourself.

And so this is an invitation for you to be willing to sit with that hurt in order to receive the information that it contains.

But here's what I want you to know.

This is really important.

When this person referred to you as boring, I think what they were probably saying was that their interaction with you, which by the way, they participated in too.

Let's not forget that.

That did not live up to some expectation or some need of theirs.

What they did not mean, or even if they meant it, it is not true that you as a human being are fundamentally boring and will always be that way.

I truly believe no human being is boring deep down.

I think we are all fascinating.

rich inner life, you have goals, you have needs, you have weaknesses and challenges, you want to connect with the people around you.

All of that already makes you so interesting and very sympathetic in my view.

So if anyone experiences you as boring, there are really only a few reasons that could be.

One is they're just missing you, which by the way, happens to us all the time.

People just don't get us sometimes.

They don't see the parts of us or they don't want to take the time to see the parts of us that are interesting.

That's okay, but that doesn't mean that you are fundamentally this way.

Another possibility is that you have to learn how to share yourself with people in a way that is more engaging, more colorful, more compelling.

And to Jordan's point, that is a skill too.

It's a practice.