Gary Direnfeld
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
One is aging.
We are reminded of our own mortality with each click of the clock.
I'm turning 40 in June.
I don't...
I don't want to psychoanalyze Miranda through you, so I'm not.
I'm just – these are some issues.
The other is I often sit back and wonder how were birthdays celebrated when this person was a child?
And might that actually be a traumatic response?
Who knows?
But in terms of how to handle this –
But the other important thing is do not try talking someone out of their feelings.
Yes.
Because the more you do, the more they double down.
Yeah.
Because the more they have to escalate.
So if anything, just be empathetic, quietly listen.
It tends to diminish.
If it doesn't, then start slowly and quietly just withdrawing your attention to it and carrying on.
We're not isolating the other person, but nor are we reinforcing what they have to say.
And we're certainly not poking the bear.