Gary Direnfeld

Do not bring my mood into the house.

Just like you would leave your muddy shoes at the doorstep.

Literally, we can do that with the mood, but you have to be mindful about it.

You know, underneath it, for many people, it comes from a place of self-worth, David.

You know, am I worthy?

I may not be.

And listen, that's not for everyone.

For others, their growing up experiences might have been that when good things happen, something bad follows.

So they're literally waiting for the other shoe to drop.

And the anxiety, the anxiety of waiting for that shoe to drop, for some people, they take control of that by this self-sabotaging because at least when that shoe drops, it's under their control.

I know it sounds weird.

No.

But that's what makes it a mental health issue.

And it helps for predictability.

You know, if that is what I'm used to, if it ain't happening, it's weird, but that's uncomfortable.

And so to restore that sense of comfort, and again, this is all very psychological,

To restore that sense of comfort, we do sabotage ourselves because it brings back what's familiar.

Let me jump in on that.

I love what you just said, that when things are going well, it feels boring.

Yes.