Gary Direnfeld

But until you've read this book, until you've done this homework, until you've tried setting some boundaries so that we truly have something to discuss in terms of change, I can't be helpful to you.

Now, having said that, in the other model, therapists will see patients forever.

And then some patients or clients, whichever jargon you prefer, they get fed up because they're not seeing the change.

They don't feel challenged.

And so they seek to withdraw.

Then there are those who believe, I'm cured.

I'm new and everything has been dealt with.

I no longer need to see you.

But when you have a relationship with a therapist, a trusting individual, regardless of the model of the therapist, it is scary saying goodbye.

There are unforeseen circumstances that can intrude on your continuing in therapy.

Yes, because I've certainly worked with persons where we've had check-ins.

Yeah.

You know, let's get together in a couple of months' time.

The way I've always worked, if it's a five-minute, 10, 15-minute conversation, that's all I'm billing you for.

We don't need to fill...

the full-time allotment.

So again, I used to practice a very different approach to therapy.

It was very flexible.

But it can be helpful, apropos what you're saying, to have those check-ins so that we can maintain one's balance, if you will, over the passage of time.

There's a lot of truth to that.