Gary Direnfeld

No problem.

But when you're in a relationship, it's more than the orgasm.

It's a statement of intimacy, closeness, attachment.

And not everyone is there, David.

That's what I was about to interrupt you to say.

What if you're not there in your relationship for maybe legitimate reasons?

I mean, there are ebbs and flow to these things in long-term relationships.

Stress.

Stress, kids, like many things.

Um, and, but, and then, so like, if you haven't done it in a while and you're trying to maybe get things going on this one night, you shouldn't have this expectation that it's going to be the best, most fantastic Valentine's day in the bedroom when you're kind of going through a rough patch, but that's the kind of pressure that people feel.

Um, and so I've got a few strategies for dealing with this, this pressure of having the perfect sexual moment.

Uh, this one is going to shock and appall you, but it's Gary after dark.

So I can say it.

It's the f**k.

first Valentine's day.

Okay.

Or the F first Valentine's day.

I didn't come up with this concept, but I love it.

Here's what it is.

For a lot of couples, they go out to a fancy dinner or they make a fancy dinner at home and they eat the like, you know, roast chicken with potatoes and jus and, and they have that heavy dessert, you know, that chocolate mousse and they maybe drink a bottle.