Gary Vaynerchuk

It's true.

Again, I think... Of course.

This is a big thing.

I hope this helps parents.

I've come to believe that it is really scary how much you become what your parents cheer about.

For example, if you're born fortunate and you have pretty privilege and your parents are constantly, your entire youth, talking about how beautiful you are or handsome you are and, like, your identity becomes that and you're going to be that kind of person in your 50s and 60s.

No doubt.

If...

This is the one I'm very fearful of.

If your parents make everything about grades, quietly they're telling you conform to a system that judges you.

That's why we have so many employees.

And if your mother cheers only about you being a nice boy and opening up doors for women and being kind and being nice to your sister, you end up being a nice boy.

That's just the truth.

It's really that simple.

Now it's nuanced and there's other things.

But like the thing they cheer becomes who you become.

And so I think parents have to be very careful and thoughtful about what they're spending on positive affirmation because a young human will continue to gravitate that for a long time.

It is actually my North Star that nice guys finish first, not last.

And obviously that goes for girls.

And that is that, that this concept that you would need to have sharp elbows, that you need to step on people, that it's a dog-eat-dog world, that it's a jungle.