Gemma Mullins

If you put no effort into your friendships, you're also going to attract friends that put no effort into you.

Open books, dude.

Yeah.

We weren't gatekeeping anything.

We had a common goal.

We had a common interest.

And it wasn't like the, oh, I'm not going to tell her that in case she does that.

Welcome back to the Oilers Talk podcast.

Amen.

And honestly, finding your ride or die circle as an adult, I'm going to preface it, it is hard work.

And honestly, all of the previous episodes we've recorded in this series, if you haven't listened to them yet, you need to pause this episode and you need to go back to them because we spoke about outgrowing friendships.

We spoke about how to become a

So hopefully you guys can start prioritizing deeper connections with your current friends or finding new people in your life to really form that ride or die circle.

Now, when I think of a ride or die circle, I think about friends that I know I could call at any hour of any day and they would drop everything and be there for me as would I for them.

And I think it does take a certain level of emotional intelligence, maturity, self-reflection, self-honesty to be able to build those friendships in the first place.

So my first point is, if you are wanting to build your ride or die circle, you need to become the friend that you want to attract, right?

Like attracts like.

If you're a shitty friend, you're going to keep attracting shitty friends.

If you put no effort into your friendships, you're also going to attract friends that put no effort into you, right?

If you are the person who talks shit about your friends behind their back, you will attract people who talk shit about you.