Gemma Mullins

And I think you can do that by the way that you speak to your friends.

Like with my friends and they're all over Melbourne and things like that.

how close we are and the depth of our friendship.

And you can do this with showing this as the case, like checking in on them and just being like, do you need anything?

Or if they have an important milestone coming up and it can be like, what are you going to do for that?

Like anything where it shows that you've thought about them, even if it's a simple message, or if it's like, you know, that they have something coming up, trying to plan something like just the effort, I think goes a long way and the opening of the doors of communication.

So they know that they do have someone there when they're needing it.

Yeah, and I think you have to also acknowledge when you are being a selfish friend because you might on the out be complaining about, let's just say you have a birthday and then not that many people show up or whatever because I know how much people, I know a lot of people feel anxious about planning birthdays and things like that.

I hate planning birthdays.

I know.

I feel the same way, right?

But what I'm saying is

I really want you to think in the situation of it's inconvenient for you, like your friend lives somewhere, are you always the one planning stuff right near your house?

Are you always the person reluctant to do that because it doesn't seem like the most appealing option?

Because if that's the case, like that's the shit you need to work on.

Because at the end of the day, like...

You showing that you're willing to inconvenience yourself and then kind of not going like tit for tat because I don't feel like that, but I view it more so like just that balanced effort.

I think that also is what makes deeper friendships because it's like sometimes I'll drive to you.

Sometimes you'll drive to me, whatever.

It all comes out in the wash.