Gemma Spake

You need both things.

You need the adventure.

You need the novelty.

You need the newness and the excitement of being in a place that

ancestors of yours or other people that you know could only dream of.

And then also making sure you have time to make your home, make your room, make your space, your safe space so that your body does have that opportunity to decompress.

This next tip is going to be the one that you probably hate the most, especially if you're really close with your family, especially if you're really close with your friends.

Try to only call home once or twice a week.

Maximum.

This is going to be the hardest part, but similar to the above tip, you're essentially detoxing.

This isn't forever, you know, just until like the calls become more sweet than bittersweet, but

It is so important.

You know, I was on this Reddit page that was like homesickness in adulthood and it was all these people giving these tips of like, call home as much as possible and like talk to your friends and your family as much as possible.

It's almost like drinking alcohol when you're really sad.

Like it's going to make you feel really good and then it's going to make you feel really terrible.

Or like eating candy when you're really hungry.

Like it's the thing that you, it's just there and it would just be the easiest way to satiate an urge or a need.

And then you just realize it was probably a bad decision.

And the reason is because it just keeps this, again, it keeps this reinforcement cycle alive of like when I'm feeling a bad feeling, the thing that's going to comfort me the most is home.

because that is better than anything I have here.