Gemma Spake

horrible job like downright workplace bullying situation she's ready to get out she's ready to leave but she's been working on her resume and I'm saying this with love she knows I'm sharing this but she's been working on her resume for three months now and hasn't applied for a single job yet and I said to her you know I was I asked her I was like Liv like you've just got to apply even if it's just for practice why aren't you just applying even if you know you're

what if i actually get the job what if i get the job and i'm not ready and my whole life changes and i'm not prepared yet this is what we're talking about this inertia this fear why does this happen why do we resist change especially in our 20s when we should supposedly according to what everyone around us and older than us is saying

When we should have all the nerve and all the goals in the world.

In this episode, I want to unpack the very deep psychology behind this paradox.

The paradox of wanting to grow, but equally clinging to what is the same.

Does this...

Say something about our character.

Is it a personal flaw?

Is it a human instinct?

Is it anxiety?

Is it something else entirely?

I'm going to give you some of the answers.

We'll look at why this specifically feels so scary in our 20s.

Why we're so afraid of losing what we already have.

and what we might actually be quietly losing and how we might actually be losing more scientifically, mathematically, psychologically by choosing the same old, by staying the same.

I've learned in my 20 so far that some of the very best decisions are also the ones that terrify us the most.

So I want to interrogate that a little bit further and hopefully convince you as well.

Without further ado, let's get into it.

So to kind of start us off, let's look at what it is about change that feels so scary, especially in our 20s.

Firstly, I think change feels particularly stressful during this decade because we're just surrounded by so much of it, right?