Gemma Spake

It's completely normal to look around you and to look at others for like information about what you should be doing and how you think and how you feel and how you should behave.

It provides an incredible evolutionary advantage in a highly complex and interconnected modern social world.

Knowing what is the norm is often good for social standing, but there are obvious problems that come with

constantly looking at other people to validate our lives and our choices, especially when what we see of them may be incorrect or probably is the incomplete picture.

I came across this article written by this woman.

I cannot remember her name, but she was on the 30 under 30 list in 2018.

If you don't know what the Forbes 30 under 30 list is,

like really impressive things and it's like a real thing to get on this list and this woman this author of this article talks about how the award it doesn't account for the whole picture of people's lives and

It doesn't look at the facts of their achievements.

It doesn't think about... It doesn't weigh up who was self-made versus who had family support.

It doesn't weigh up their failures.

She points to when Forbes... There was a really famous article a couple of years back about Kylie Jenner being the first self-made billionaire woman on one of its covers.

And in this article, this woman talks about how...

This list, that's an example of how they fetishize achievement, but they erase the role of privilege and access.

Like they only spotlight the individual, not the system, not all the stuff that went right for them, not all the luck they have, or even not when, like they never talk about what went wrong or anything that isn't glamorous.

I'm like, I'm totally blanking on her name.

I'm going to leave a link below.

It is such a good article.

It's on Vox if you want to read it.

And again, this woman who wrote this article was a Forbes 30 under 30 awardee.