Gemma Spake

Like that narrative of like, this is just what it is.

This is just what it is.

It gets stronger and stronger every day you allow it to continue to exist and not challenge it.

And I'm not saying you can't eventually change or that you won't or that there aren't choices out there that you will eventually take.

But the thing is...

Some of the best decisions that we make in our lives are the ones that we don't feel prepared for because you can never be 100% certain that what you're going to do, the risk you're going to take is going to work out.

How do we get over that mental barrier, the not knowing, the uncertainty?

We're going to dive into exactly how, some steps to embrace change after this short break.

So stay with us.

Here's a pattern that I've noticed recently.

I often think the decisions that are the most life-altering are the ones that actually you don't feel calm at the time about making.

I think they're the ones that challenge you the most.

In my own life, that was like leaving my first long-term relationship, this person I thought I was going to be with forever, or quitting my job, leaving the comfort of a paycheck to work for myself, moving cities to a place I didn't know anybody.

None of those decisions were easy.

I actually put them all off much longer than I needed to.

I was in that relationship like for six months longer than I should have been.

Same with the job.

It took two years for me to move to London.

I still don't feel 100% certain about that decision sometimes.

This is because a lot of big decisions have what we call approach avoidance conflicts.