Gemma Spake

We've talked a lot about losses and gains as if a decision is either going to create all loss or all gain.

The theory, this theory though, says it's probably going to be a mix.

Undesirable and desirable things.

Hopefully the desirable things win out.

We don't always know.

But what this means is that the closer we get to making a decision or a goal, the greater our anxiety, but also the greater our excitement.

The feelings, those feelings, excitement, anxiety, excitement, anxiety, fear, anxiety, excitement, anxiety.

they can be indistinguishable at times.

So we just basically end up being overwhelmed.

This spike of anxiety that you receive when you feel as you're near a decision point is incredibly normal because you're responding to

essentially an increasing reality that things are going to change and that you're going to have to adapt not a possibility anymore a reality i often think you know the more fear the more pros and cons lists that you make the more you probably should go through with it the more you probably should do it scared because when you're scared it points to the fact that this

possibility and what is being offered to you or what you think could come from this strikes a real nerve.

It strikes a nerve deeply with what you value.

If you didn't care, if you didn't fear this as much, if you weren't as overwhelmed by the choice,

I feel like you wouldn't secretly kind of know that this is what you need to do.

I don't think you'd be having such a profound emotional reaction if this thing wasn't right for you because you wouldn't be meaningfully invested enough to feel this way.

What you're experiencing as anxiety and fear about change is your nervous system reacting to the magnitude of possibility and the unknowing, how unknown it is.

And often we think that's just anxiety.

A large part of it is anticipation, knowing that this has to be our reality, knowing it's only a matter of time until we take the plunge, knowing that

that things are going to be incredible.