Gemma Speck

You then lose other relationships that were tied to that person.

You then lose a loss of future safety.

Like it is...

How many?

That's at least seven, right?

It's not just that you lost the trust.

Such an expansive experience of loss.

Again, that is why this is trauma.

That is why it is not dramatic to suggest that this leaves long-lasting emotional wounds.

There is this whole theory actually called betrayal trauma theory.

that shows betrayal can cause even more emotional scarring than non-betrayal trauma I don't always like to compare I think it's like apples and oranges but like there is impact there that is that is seen on a similar level as going to war experience a car accident experiencing violence

Essentially, all of this is just to validate, right?

Going through this, even if somebody wasn't violent against you, even if somebody, you know, didn't do something unimaginable or didn't do something that like would make the newspapers, like it still leaves lasting emotional wounds and it still really does kind of change who you are as a person.

And that's exactly what we're going to discuss as well as, as I said, how to heal from this betrayal after the short break.

So stay with us.

The real long-lasting pain of betrayal is that the other person gets to move on.

They get to move on.

And you are the one that's left with a fundamental sense of uncertainty moving forward with your life.

This uncertainty continues to like pop its nasty head up again and again in so many other situations and so many other relationships where it does not deserve to be.

In fact, there was a 2024 study that systematically investigated this with over 140 participants who had experienced partner betrayal trauma.