Gemma Speck

Mourning is just so hard.

It's so uncomfortable.

But I also think we tend to rush through it.

And it's something that you cannot rush through.

I think anybody who's experienced this will tell you grief, sadness, heartbreak, betrayal are things that you have to move through

rather than try and dodge around.

And when you do, you get to stage seven, which is acceptance and recovery.

I think the best way I've seen this described, how you know that you are fully accepting what's happened to you, is when the future starts to feel as exciting and good as you thought the past was.

Basically, the before and the after start to feel similar.

There's optimism, there's

There's a deep sense of like, this is just what I was dealt.

I can deal with it.

I want to feel happy.

I want to be alive.

I want to get through this.

How am I going to make this happen?

Despite all of that.

It's also probably the first time where you can like objectively see the situation for what it is.

I think in the first few stages, there's always like a dominant emotion trying to convince you of some reality of this betrayal.

you know, that it didn't happen, that it was all terrible, that you could never love again.