Gemma Speck

I'm not asking why does it sound so convincing.

I'm asking who does it actually serve in this state and moment in your life.

Does it help you become more honest?

Is it helping you become more connected?

Can you give me any evidence that self-hatred has gotten you anywhere?

Or does it keep you small, obedient, ashamed, hypervigilant, apologetic, easy to control?

Because despite how convincing and real these voices are, they're often just evidence, again, of how our brains have been trained to please, trained to make others comfortable and

Not how we actually should be.

And if that voice is not serving you, you actually don't need to listen to it.

You don't need to keep treating it as gospel.

You can start relating to it as a reflex.

Every time you hear that self-hatred kind of bubble up, you have to say to yourself, like, this is not factual.

This is just a bad lesson that I was taught.

This is just incorrect information I was taught.

I know better now.

The second thing is just to get super rational.

Look outward.

Again, try and find just one example, just one of self-hatred actually helping somebody realize their dreams and enjoy their dreams.

Honestly, I have been like racking my brain for weeks trying to think of an answer and

the only thing I can ever come up with is people who like, who present self-hatred as something that I actually had to overcome and they now reflect on, not something that helped them.