Gemma Speck

You cannot bully yourself into being better.

Even if it gets momentary results, it is not a long-term motivational force the way that we tend to think it will be.

This is a big episode today.

We have a lot going

to explore.

I really particularly want to drill into the origins of this feeling and of this like psychological self-loathing.

And then also, of course, provide some evidence-based strategies to eliminate that mindset, especially if you are in your twenties, because if there was going to be a time in your life where you really needed to have

a deep sense of self-belief, it would be this time.

It would be right now.

So I feel like if you are struggling with self-doubt and self-loathing that has become insidious and is bleeding into everything that you're doing, this is the perfect episode for you.

Without further ado, let's talk about why hating yourself will get you nowhere you want to be.

And of course, the alternative.

Stay with us.

Let's start here.

Why does it feel easier to hate ourselves rather than love ourselves?

Like, instinctually.

Why does it feel easier to dismiss a compliment or to be self-deprecating in front of other people?

Or why does it feel easier to focus in on all the things we dislike about our bodies and dislike about our personalities and dislike about our work ethic rather than the things that we like?

That doesn't come from me.

nowhere.