Gemma Speck

We only pay attention to the negative evidence and we think that that must mean it's the truth and that that must confirm everything that our inner critical voice is saying, missing like 50% of the picture.

Flip it, reverse it.

Instead, try to create a really deliberate, ongoing set of reasons or pieces of evidence why you are amazing, why you care about yourself, why you are a productive person, why you deserve to feel proud of your achievements, why you look amazing, why people like you.

It should be like the small granular details that make you who you are.

You make people feel less awkward.

You are observant.

You make people laugh.

Dogs always seem to want to be near you.

I feel like that one's an amazing one.

You keep your word.

You're a good friend.

That really forces us to focus back in on everything that society has kind of said we don't get to acknowledge.

Because if we were to acknowledge that, we would be arrogant.

We wouldn't be humble.

We would be...

I don't even know.

Again, once you interrogate this a little bit further, you kind of realize how deeply impractical it is.

It doesn't actually work.

It doesn't actually make us like ourselves.

It doesn't actually make us better people.