Gemma Speck
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6,373 appearances
17 recordings
1 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 13 Jun
Gemma Speck’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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The other thing though, and the other big explanation is this one particular effect I don't see people talking about, which is the zygonic effect.
Zygonic effect.
Our brain hates unfinished stories.
And so our brain will keep them open until we get the solution.
This means we genuinely cannot move on until we feel like we have closure.
Until we know why they don't want us.
We know that somebody else will.
This is what is happening when you want somebody who, and you find yourself wanting them more after they don't want you back.
They've done studies on this where they'll get somebody to do a task and they'll interrupt them halfway through and then they'll get them to do another task.
And this person will be like, I can't do this.
I'm fixated.
I'm fixated on finishing this unfinished thing.
And that is literally what happens.
with relationships that are unfinished as well.
How can I move on when this door isn't being officially closed?
And finally, I also think unrequited love gives us a purpose.
When everything else in your life feels uncertain, having text to analyze, small moments to replay, somebody to yearn for, gives you the greatest kind of object to fixate on.
It feels so important because what's more important than love?
It's an amazing, amazing distraction.
Not having that someone, that fixation point can make life feel kind of boring and meaningless.
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