Gemma Speck

they're not meant to be rational about love either.

That's been way too normalized, that we're meant to be these cold professionals.

Situations of unrequited love and yearning and longing are one of the most human things you can experience.

Personally, I think it's spiritual almost, and I'd much rather you are somebody who feels and loves deeply and gives deeply, even if that is unreciprocated, than be somebody who cannot find it in their heart to

to care or who sees love as a game or who sees love as something to win and there are rules to follow and the first one to fall in love loses.

I don't think that's particularly healthy.

As much as people talk about how unrequited love is unhealthy and irrational and as much as it probably is really frustrating and goes against many forms of reasoning,

Is it really that bad to care deeply about somebody and to see somebody's potential?

I think that the fact that you have that capacity for somebody who doesn't care about you means that when you find somebody who really does care about you and you feel this way about them as well, you're going to experience a whole other depth of

Like, you think this is love?

Imagine what love is going to feel like when you have that level of reciprocation.

But I only think you can get there if you break this current bond.

And if you are able to investigate and kind of reveal to yourself what it is about somebody who doesn't want you back that is so...

captivating to you?

Is it the sense of achievement?

Is it that you think you need to earn love?

Is it that they are representing a disregarded need that you have?

I don't know.

I can't really give you the answers, but I hope that this is helpful.

I hope that this information can get you a little bit closer.