George Camel

And eventually we're going to tell him.

I mean, we have to tell him, but we're just not there yet.

He's not...

emotionally mature enough to be there yet sure okay um so what I'll speak to I'll speak to the money side of it Sarah from the sense that no this is not a debt that you need to pay I mean you're you use the money essentially how the system works and you know you use it exactly appropriately and I know that doesn't sit well with you because of who it's coming from and that

That totally makes sense to me.

But I think kind of the quote-unquote debt going forward, which is not a debt, but it's to say, okay, how can we best set up my son to have a life where he, from a financial standpoint, understands money, doesn't have to walk through this debt-free journey, and we're setting him up in order to do that.

And that looks like things like maybe college or helping with his first car, whatever that may look like for you guys and for me.

I wouldn't hold on to that emotional $4,000 anymore because I think you need to release that.

But I think going forward, the motivation now is to pass a great legacy onto your son, right?

Regardless of $4,000 or not.

So I totally understand how that can feel like, oh my gosh, we use this money and it feels so gross and I hate it because he's a terrible person.

Um, but on, but you know, you, you guys were in a pinch at the time and that's what that money's for is to help take care of your son.

And that's what you guys did.

So, um, I, I would, I would let go of that because emotionally, I think it, I think it is holding onto you so deeply.

Yeah, and Sarah, too, you know, give yourself a little bit of grace.

You know, if this was a $60,000...

you know, thing or something.

And you were like, oh my gosh, she was supposed to use it for a down payment on a house or, you know what I mean?

Like a mag, like, I feel like, like a, like a lot of this magnitude and weight from a dollar standpoint, I feel like we could go at it a different way.

Cause I could see, you know, the more money it is, the more weight it feels right.