Gillian Sandstrom

So I think sometimes people, you know, it's you have to be aware that there is going to be that awkward moment because unfortunately it is just not the norm. And so people have to sort of make sense of what's going on. But I think if you can be a little bit patient, you You know, you almost always get to that stage where people can accept that you're just being friendly.

So I think sometimes people, you know, it's you have to be aware that there is going to be that awkward moment because unfortunately it is just not the norm. And so people have to sort of make sense of what's going on. But I think if you can be a little bit patient, you You know, you almost always get to that stage where people can accept that you're just being friendly.

I can think of a time not too long ago when I was on the tube in London. And the unwritten rule is that you do not talk to people on the tube. So it's just breaking all of the norms to do it. But I've had some really great chats on the tube, so I just keep doing it. But I remember once being on the tube and turning to the person sitting on my right and trying to start a conversation.

I can think of a time not too long ago when I was on the tube in London. And the unwritten rule is that you do not talk to people on the tube. So it's just breaking all of the norms to do it. But I've had some really great chats on the tube, so I just keep doing it. But I remember once being on the tube and turning to the person sitting on my right and trying to start a conversation.

I can think of a time not too long ago when I was on the tube in London. And the unwritten rule is that you do not talk to people on the tube. So it's just breaking all of the norms to do it. But I've had some really great chats on the tube, so I just keep doing it. But I remember once being on the tube and turning to the person sitting on my right and trying to start a conversation.

And, you know, she was polite. She, you know, I think I started to say, you know, how are you? Have you had a busy day? And, you know, she responded, but it was very clear from her body language that she just did not want to talk. She was getting out a book and sort of getting herself set up and plugged in, whatever. And so I thought, OK, that's fine.

And, you know, she was polite. She, you know, I think I started to say, you know, how are you? Have you had a busy day? And, you know, she responded, but it was very clear from her body language that she just did not want to talk. She was getting out a book and sort of getting herself set up and plugged in, whatever. And so I thought, OK, that's fine.

And, you know, she was polite. She, you know, I think I started to say, you know, how are you? Have you had a busy day? And, you know, she responded, but it was very clear from her body language that she just did not want to talk. She was getting out a book and sort of getting herself set up and plugged in, whatever. And so I thought, OK, that's fine.

You know, I don't think we should push ourselves on people. And so I literally turned my head to the person sitting on my left and I started talking to them. And we had a really nice chat. People worry too much about rejection because, first of all, I don't know why that woman didn't want to talk to me.

You know, I don't think we should push ourselves on people. And so I literally turned my head to the person sitting on my left and I started talking to them. And we had a really nice chat. People worry too much about rejection because, first of all, I don't know why that woman didn't want to talk to me.

You know, I don't think we should push ourselves on people. And so I literally turned my head to the person sitting on my left and I started talking to them. And we had a really nice chat. People worry too much about rejection because, first of all, I don't know why that woman didn't want to talk to me.

But, you know, there's a hundred reasons and I could choose to believe that she didn't like me or something about me. But I could also choose to believe that, you know, like I said, maybe she's shy, maybe she's anxious, maybe she just really is reading an amazing book. And, you know, I get it.

But, you know, there's a hundred reasons and I could choose to believe that she didn't like me or something about me. But I could also choose to believe that, you know, like I said, maybe she's shy, maybe she's anxious, maybe she just really is reading an amazing book. And, you know, I get it.

But, you know, there's a hundred reasons and I could choose to believe that she didn't like me or something about me. But I could also choose to believe that, you know, like I said, maybe she's shy, maybe she's anxious, maybe she just really is reading an amazing book. And, you know, I get it.

So, you know, I can choose to believe something that isn't so personally negative and just, you know, most people do want to talk and, you know, it didn't surprise me that the person on my left was a bit more willing.

So, you know, I can choose to believe something that isn't so personally negative and just, you know, most people do want to talk and, you know, it didn't surprise me that the person on my left was a bit more willing.

So, you know, I can choose to believe something that isn't so personally negative and just, you know, most people do want to talk and, you know, it didn't surprise me that the person on my left was a bit more willing.

I think it helps to sort of pre-think, you know, what might I do if that happened? And it could be things like, well, I'll share something about myself or I'll comment on something that was in the news today or I'll ask them a question or I'll take a breath and just wait a moment and it'll be fine. But I have to make sure I don't panic. That would be a good thing to think about.

I think it helps to sort of pre-think, you know, what might I do if that happened? And it could be things like, well, I'll share something about myself or I'll comment on something that was in the news today or I'll ask them a question or I'll take a breath and just wait a moment and it'll be fine. But I have to make sure I don't panic. That would be a good thing to think about.

I think it helps to sort of pre-think, you know, what might I do if that happened? And it could be things like, well, I'll share something about myself or I'll comment on something that was in the news today or I'll ask them a question or I'll take a breath and just wait a moment and it'll be fine. But I have to make sure I don't panic. That would be a good thing to think about.