Glennon Doyle

And that's a lie.

So it's like the idea of, I think Audre Lorde said, look at what you're building today.

It should look a lot like what you want to be building for the future.

We cannot wait anymore.

We cannot buy rest or love or enoughness or we have to demand it right now.

And that might mean that I just feel like everything right now is about enoughness.

I've done a lot of therapy, and I do feel like probably in my notes, like in the notes the person takes, I would imagine that there's probably something about being attached to suffering and being attached to struggle and being like not able to let go of that identity.

No one's said that to me yet, but if I were her, I would write that down.

Right now, I'm thinking a lot about the roles we learn as kids in our families.

I feel like that stuff is under studied in our lives.

Like, I think we get an identity in our family.

It's like we're born into a family and a family is just like a cast of characters.

And in order for the whole play to take to gel, it's like, here's your script.

Here's your script.

Here's your script.

This is what you're going to play.

This is what you're going to play.

And then you wake up and you're 35 and you're like, is this even who I am?

So for me, I know that one of my roles in my family was the like identified patient.

So there's a lot of different scapegoat or bad one or whatever, but it's like the one who embodies all the sickness so that we can just have her be sick.