Glennon Doyle

I don't know exactly how to solve that, but I do have one story to tell you that is the closest I've come.

Okay, so my youngest was at the table and she was talking about this kid that is in her high school that I do not like.

Okay?

And I have a lot of reasons for feeling this way.

And when people bring up things or people that scare me, like when people I love signal to me that they are opening their lives to things or people that scare me, what I go to immediately is judgment.

That is what I, that is my security blanket.

I am a good arguer.

I make a good case against people.

If you bring up somebody who I think is unsafe, if you give me eight minutes, I can make a case that you will never text that person back.

Okay.

It's a skill that I have developed and it's not kind and it's not real.

And it is only because I'm very scared of letting people in the first, uh,

time I went to therapy for this new round of eating disorder recovery, the therapist looked at me and said, Glennon, how is how you handle people the same way as how you handle food?

And I was like, shut up.

What are you talking about?

But the truth is that I only had a few foods that I decided were safe and everything else was bad and unsafe and I only had a few people that I decided were safe and everyone else is bad and unsafe and black and white and good and bad and that is that.

So,

I watched my daughter who had brought up this person who was, you know, 13, and then watched myself starting to talk shit about this 13-year-old, okay?

Making a full 50-year-old woman case against this person.

And I'm watching it and it's happening.