Glennon Doyle

So we have people that are listening to this right now and are confused because it's not necessarily like the easiest thing to understand, especially when you're being gaslighted. How do you know that you are in a gaslighting relationship and what are the signs and red flags for folks listening to look for?

So we have people that are listening to this right now and are confused because it's not necessarily like the easiest thing to understand, especially when you're being gaslighted. How do you know that you are in a gaslighting relationship and what are the signs and red flags for folks listening to look for?

So we have people that are listening to this right now and are confused because it's not necessarily like the easiest thing to understand, especially when you're being gaslighted. How do you know that you are in a gaslighting relationship and what are the signs and red flags for folks listening to look for?

I know. I love you so much for saying that you were studying it and then you didn't even know it was happening to you because that is the story of my damn life. So thank you.

I know. I love you so much for saying that you were studying it and then you didn't even know it was happening to you because that is the story of my damn life. So thank you.

I know. I love you so much for saying that you were studying it and then you didn't even know it was happening to you because that is the story of my damn life. So thank you.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Because it's not about the thing. It's the gaslightees becoming more invested in changing the gaslighter's perception of them. That's right. It's not even about the problem anymore. It's about, no, no, no, I don't think I'm that way. And you must agree with me, which you call the urge to merge. So can you talk to us about how the urge to merge gets us into the gaslight tango?

Because it's not about the thing. It's the gaslightees becoming more invested in changing the gaslighter's perception of them. That's right. It's not even about the problem anymore. It's about, no, no, no, I don't think I'm that way. And you must agree with me, which you call the urge to merge. So can you talk to us about how the urge to merge gets us into the gaslight tango?

Because it's not about the thing. It's the gaslightees becoming more invested in changing the gaslighter's perception of them. That's right. It's not even about the problem anymore. It's about, no, no, no, I don't think I'm that way. And you must agree with me, which you call the urge to merge. So can you talk to us about how the urge to merge gets us into the gaslight tango?

So it's the urge to merge a single perspective. It's to merge into a single perspective. We must have this one perspective.

So it's the urge to merge a single perspective. It's to merge into a single perspective. We must have this one perspective.

So it's the urge to merge a single perspective. It's to merge into a single perspective. We must have this one perspective.

Okay, so how does that look in the scenario in which my sister is at a party and she comes back after the party with her ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend says, you were flirting. I saw you flirting. And if she's in her gaslighting phase, she says what, sister?

Okay, so how does that look in the scenario in which my sister is at a party and she comes back after the party with her ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend says, you were flirting. I saw you flirting. And if she's in her gaslighting phase, she says what, sister?

Okay, so how does that look in the scenario in which my sister is at a party and she comes back after the party with her ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend says, you were flirting. I saw you flirting. And if she's in her gaslighting phase, she says what, sister?

And then how does that change your behavior at the party the next time? Oh, you do.

And then how does that change your behavior at the party the next time? Oh, you do.