Glennon Doyle

You don't have to stop people before they even come into your life like I do because you have yourself so much that you know if they cross a line, you'll stop them then.

I want you to have your glasses on.

I don't want to keep putting my dirty glasses on you, but this weird thing is happening, which is that I can't stop.

I know it.

I feel it.

I know it.

But I'm in this weird in-between time where I can tell that I'm doing it, but I'm still doing it.

So what I'm asking you to do is every time your mom starts doing that, I'm pointing at somebody else.

I'm pointing at that kid.

This has nothing to do with that kid.

Only look at me.

Only think, oh, my mom's doing that thing because she hasn't learned how to not do that thing.

She's just really scared.

And she was like, ah.

That makes sense.

Like it was one of the, you know, you sometimes talk to your kids.

It's just like, no, it's not working.

This was a moment where she was like, she got it.

That is, I think the closest I can come to expressing how I think we put a stop gap by actually knowing ourselves well enough and doing the work on ourselves to know when we're doing our shit, right?

to know when we're doing our bullshit, and then teaching our children what our bullshit is so that they know with love, oh, my mom's doing her bullshit again, and that's not mine.